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Feb 27, 2011, 05:22 PM
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He is really upset and sad. Seems the guy that was holding the job for AJ could not wait any longer. They guy said AJ didn't call him or even email him and he couldn't hold the job any longer, so he hired someone else...AJ's dad found out what the job paid and it was $70,000 per year.....Can you believe that! A great paying job with all the benefits too.............
The guy was holding the job since January..or was it mid December... ANYway the job is gone and as I have learned "by you kind folks here" that I am part of the blame for giving everything to AJ, it seems AJ's dad's family are yelling at him because they are all saying to him what you guys said to me... I huffed a bit but I finally got it.... AJ 's dad's shoulders only slumped and he is so sad... Umm I just wanted to get this off my chest. I know you guys are tired of hearing the AJ drama and both AJ's dad and I are tired of it too. Don't really need any responses.... Sorry it just took me soooooooooo long to finally get it... Even feeling sorry for all the huffing from me.... Hard to admit you are wrong esp when it comes to our children... And while we are defending ourselves we end up doing more harm to the children, adult son, in our case than good....... Time for mama a papa to "grow up" maybe!   to all... even to those that stepped on my toes and I yelled at them.......
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#2
Feb 27, 2011, 05:45 PM
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Hello, radio_flyer. Be kind to yourself. All of you are in my thoughts.
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#3
Feb 27, 2011, 06:04 PM
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((radio_flyer))
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Feb 27, 2011, 10:05 PM
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kitty and byz thank you
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#5
Feb 27, 2011, 11:49 PM
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Quote:
Hi dont beat yourself up you are a good mom and dont let nobody try to make you feel bad
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Feb 28, 2011, 10:53 AM
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That's right!
Listen LADY - Stop beating yourself over the head.....(that's MY job  ) - same goes for your ex-husband (except I won't touch him  ).I completely understand the guilt trip (I feel it too sometimes), but it's only natural for people to blame their parents or someone else for what they didn't have in life. You didn't get what you needed, and neither did I. I'm sure the same goes for our husband's. But we gave it our all, didn't we......even without a "full deck" at our disposal? You and your husband are only guilty of loving your son and wanting what is best for him. It's not about YOU winning your hand at cards at this point. It's about AJ finding his own place at a table and learning how to use his own cards in life in the best way possible. Blaming you or your husband (or anyone) at this point is WEAK on his part. If he needs you to work on his resume, it sounds to me like he hasn't graduated from junior high. There are plenty of places that can help him with a resume and get him started on the career path and interviews HE chooses. |
| lonegael, lynn P.
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Feb 28, 2011, 11:14 AM
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Radio, we're all still growing up. give your self a break. That's what kids are for. Thye force us to develop, even if we ideally should be a few steps ahead of them. Huggs dear.
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Feb 28, 2011, 11:28 AM
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((((radio flyer))) - wow $70,000...what was he thinking? Don't feel bad and I hope you'll both let him know the feeling - that he needs to work to eat and stay warm from this point on. No need to beat yourself up over this - over parenting is certainly not bad like other parenting mistakes. We're all here to support you
and tell you like it is. Outsiders can always see things more clearly. You get it now - that's progress.
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| lonegael
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#9
Feb 28, 2011, 02:59 PM
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thank you kikki
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Feb 28, 2011, 04:07 PM
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Ha! Been typen away and re sponding and my computer went haywire and everything I wrote vanished... Copied some to wordpad so will start again from there ..
Think my keyboard is messed up.. kee ps adding extra spaces .. I dunno... |
| KathyM, lonegael, lynn P.
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Mar 01, 2011, 05:46 PM
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oo papa is mad... AJ's car broke down and guess AJ called papa and papa said.........
"you don't have a job, so you don't need a car" and hung up.... |
| lonegael, lynn P.
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Mar 01, 2011, 10:54 PM
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Yay for papa!
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| lynn P., radio_flyer
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#13
Mar 02, 2011, 04:13 AM
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OOOOOH, radio, lock the door!
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| lynn P., radio_flyer
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Mar 02, 2011, 07:07 PM
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Thanks kitty and lonegael............I do believe AJ's dad finally "got it" too
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| lynn P.
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Mar 02, 2011, 07:19 PM
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Good for you and your ex ((radio flyer)) - be a strong united front.
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