[nice girl]

Today i just couldn't take it anymore. . . .
When one of my colleague who is the age of my father and who is used to passing comments struck again. . . .

I passed on one too right at his face. . . .

He din't respond and started working. . . .

Now i'm thinking i shouldn't have said something back. . . .

Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhh. . . .. . .
I hate office politics. . . . . . .

[Evening]

If you're anything like me you definitely SHOULD have said something back. Like I always say, don't dish it out if you can't take it back, and if this person is saying things you don't have to tolerate it in silence. You shouldn't have to put up with these things without having the right to stand up for yourself.

[lonegael]

Ideally, we should all be able to rise above such thing. Unfortunately, there is this thing called gravity and we are human. Be civil when folks are civil. Forgive yourself when you have hit your limit with an uncivil fellow human. Glad you grounded on someone who was the problem. Sounds like he needed it!

[lynn P.]

What kind of comments does he say to you? I think you did the right thing - what gives him the right to give you anything but positive comments. He's not better than you. Maybe he'll think before he talks next time. Good for you.

[cutebagaddict08]

Good for you! It's not right when others make us feel uncomfortable!

[nice girl]

Thanks all. . . .
Well actually he called me dumb. . . . just cz his son get's scolded n i don't. . . .
"I said not as dumb as ur son"
He's elder to me, so i felt bad. . . . But yeah he did deserve it alright. . . . It's not really my fault his son get's scolded. . . .
He passes comments all the time. . . . makes me miserable. . . . how long could i have avoided. . . .

[lonegael]

If he has problems with his son getting scolded he can a) take it up with his son
b) take it up with the person scolding his son. taking it out on you is not constructive, is stupid and mean. I can't think of a better reason to come back at him, but it might be better to leave the less than gifted son out of it. the kid seems to be making enough of his own trouble, and daddy's attitude is daddy's attitude. Nope, can't blame you for snapping back, dear. Just ry to do it in a way that is controlled and lets him know that you haven't let him gain an upper hand. HUGGGS

[nice girl]

Actually the thing is maybe im never scolded cz my dad's the boss of my boss. . . .
But i really can't change the fact. . . . And yes i shouldn't have said that about his son. . . . I feel very sorry for that. . . . I just got mad at that moment and dint know what i was saying. . . .

[KathyM]

Hi Nice girl

If I had to work with someone on a daily basis like that, I would either let those comments slide off my shoulder or I would confront him directly. Fighting fire with fire rarely works in the workplace (it doesn't work that well on the street either, or at home, lol).

If I walked by and he called me dumb, I'd probably give him a sweet smile and say "I'm sorry you feel that way" (or something to that effect). Insulting him back will only challenge him to insult you back even harder. It's not a game you can win with any real satisfaction. Both parties usually get hurt, sooner or later.

If he catches you on a bad day with an insult, confront him directly and ask him why he has such a problem with you? If it's because of a problem with your father, then maybe he should grow a spine and discuss it directly with your father. Maybe you shouldn't tell him to "grow a spine," but it sounds kind of weak for a man to go up against another man by attacking the man's daughter (you).

[lonegael]

Good post^^