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Old Mar 10, 2011, 09:19 AM
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I'll freely admit that my life is messed up at the moment. I lost my last job, while still on probation, I've been relapsing, I had a serious accident that resulted in a serious infection when I fell during a blackout. I'm now sober again and back in rehab, and waiting to hear about employment insurance, but I have enough money saved that I don't have to worry about finding a job immediately.

But I feel bad because I'm worrying my friends. I went out for dinner last week with my friend Mat, and she was obviously really upset and asking me lots of questions about my infection, and rehab, and how I'm doing and I said "surprisingly, I'm not in the least suicidal" she looked relieved and said, "Good, I was really worried about that & I really worry about you living alone."

Then yesterday I was talking with my friend AL, and I casually mentioned I have that I have an appointment this Fri. with my lawyer to go in and finalize my will. Long pause. She asked if this was something she needed to be worried about. And I'm - 'No, nothing is going on, I just don't want the gov't deciding what to do with my stuff if I die." And she then asked, "It's not a cry for help is it?" It took me about 5 min. to reassure her.

It's great that I now have people in my life that care and worry about me. I just hate the fact that I worry them. It also means that I have to stick around as I know I couldn't commit SU and hurt my friends.

I really hope I can get to a point where they don't have to worry about me anymore.

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Old Mar 10, 2011, 10:48 AM
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Good luck in getting there, splitimage.
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Old Mar 10, 2011, 11:46 AM
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I hear ya'! I've been there, too. I lost my job because I've been so destablized by all this,and when I ran into an old co-worker at the store, she started tearing up when she asked how I'm doing. Ugh... I'm too busy worrying about my own progress to need to deal with their reactions!
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Old Mar 10, 2011, 12:30 PM
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It also means that I have to stick around as I know I couldn't commit SU and hurt my friends.
Now that is a very good thing.

I think worrying is a part of caring about someone. Of course people worry more when you are unstable, I know my friends and family worry about me constantly and I definitely return the feeling. I try not to feel guilty for it, because, hey, I worry about me too sometimes, lol. I try to just accept it as a sign that they care.
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Old Mar 10, 2011, 02:14 PM
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My friends have admitted to worrying about me as well. It's nice to know they care, but like you, I don't want them to have to worry about me.

Good luck!
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Old Mar 11, 2011, 09:20 AM
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It is nice hearing about your sobriety It is also nice you have such caring friends, they mean well for you
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