[Evening]

I went out for dinner with one of my friends tonight, I was nervous about it initially because I get anxious, and because he’s a guy. I’m not very good with men but I know I have to get past that. Well it turned out to be a really great night, I’m so glad I didn’t bail out. We’ve known each other for a few years, and since this year we’ve seen more of each other (we rarely saw each other before). We both have a LOT in common, he is like the male version of myself. And tonight we talked and talked, and it turns out we have even more in common than we ever realised.

We started talking more personal things, like family issues, and top of everything else we have in common, we have both had very similar lives and experiences, and have very similar views on relationships. I think it was the first time ever that I had a conversation with someone about being abused where someone totally got it and experienced exactly what I went through, that fear, having our mothers choose an abusive guy over us, having a crappy family, being bullied in school. It was like I was talking to myself. And the thing that gets me is there ARE actually guys out there that can relate and understand, and that I can trust. I don’t mean that as any offence to anyone, I just grew up in a family that has no examples of respectful relationships, it’s one abusive one after the other.

He doesn’t do drugs and is totally against them like me, his mother was with a psycho like my mother was, when my mother was with her boyfriend we had the NCA following us undercover because of her and her boyfriends involvement with drugs, he had the same experience. He even lived with his mother in the same Salvation Army apartment block that my mother is currently living in. Our whole conversation was basically talking for each other. I think I really needed that conversation. I’m feeling really great at the moment, it’s the first time I’ve felt completely comfortable with a guy and without that nervous feeling, like I have to make excuses to get out of there, I just wanted to sit there and talk all night. Could this be a new beginning for Evening? Could this be a state of Euphoria that makes me want to temporarily believe that’s the case? Who knows…

I just wanted to share my good night with you all!

[Sabrina]

Like you say, "Who knows?". It sounds ideal, he sounds wonderful. I am glad you had such a good time.

Hello, Evening. Thanks for sharing.

[wing]

Wow! Sounds like a great match!

[Evening]

We've always had a lot in common, but to talk about those things and find that every time I said 'and you felt like this and this and this' he would say 'yep', it was like I was having a conversation with myself. I'm glad I have a friend that can relate and is a decent person too, I need to surround myself with more people like this.

[Junerain]

Nice times like these mean much to one's soul


Many more 'evenings' to come

Many more self evolving and growing!