[beauflow]

I know that this is not true entirely, but I am finding that Thank you is becoming more unknown in my real life. Yes it may be some of the people in my life, but some people shock me.

Last October I gave some bears that I made to my brother to give to his friend, 1 for each of her kids and one for her---- Now I know, I have a middle man in all of this, my brother- but he said thank you and he would get them to her (I believe him, I am sorry he was in a good mood and he is a good person). This friend of his, she has my contact information, we are friends on face book- and no thanks what so ever from her- I get mad at that

Then I have other buds, I know again Face Book- But I will try to lift their mood or say something supportive to them and I don't even get acknowledged. that too is another thing that I am finding that is going away slowly- acknowledging another human some times.

I was shocked, it was my nephew's birthday a few days ago- he had a handful of people that said Happy Birthday to him- and none of us got a thank you- I even talked to him last Sunday- and I got a geez thanks Aunty for being late ??? I was thinking in my head, ya know, I was not late, you just either do not check that thing that often or some thing else is up.. *He does sound down, he is 16 and wants a job so bad so he can help his mom, so I can't blame him much with this- but still-- a thank you to all that thought of him would be nice, I think

It just gets at me some times this Thank you Business... I try best to say thank you and please-- it helps with positive mood as well to do so... It is being polite is it not?

Ya know my dad may had been a meany at some times, but please and thank you-- he always asked that I please keep that- and not let it go away.

I have been with my boyfriend for a bit, I still say please and thank you to him just as love you- yes with some people after a while it is not needed to be said all the time. but we live together and see each other every day and we hang out with each other as much as we can.
People that I barely see to not see for years, I think that is stretching it.

Now I will not rant and say NO ONE says thank you for that is just NOT TRUE-

My Sisters' ex-husband when I said happy bday- made a general post of thank you- not individual ones, which I appreciate a general post of thank you to everyone that is awesome in my book!
He also said thank you when i asked to be sure i had the correct address for him to send a card this December- I had not even sent it and he said thank you

My Boyfriend's Mom- she is big on thank you- I like her! She says thank you for thinking of so and so, when I was asking for addresses for his side of the family, and she says thanks for well wishes as well.

sigh--- I just get so mad at some with the thank you-- And see it is not that I do stuff to get the thank you or recognition, I know some reading may be like- you just want attention with this-

Not the case, what gets me is that it is common nice thing to do, it takes little effort to no effort to do, and surely does not cost a penny to say- I don't understand why the nice thing is being slowly weeded out...

Even with the stores- Over Half the time I say thank you to the clerk and don't get a "thanks for shopping with us" back-- That really gets me, I should not be the one thank you unless I stole something LOL... ha ha ha- that goes through my head when I don't get a thanks back from the clerk.. I guess it is on the damn receipt, right? what am i complaining about then?!

Sigh--- I just don't get it...

I just wish it would not be so hard for some.
I know with me I have issues with believing people, IE complementing me as in "good Job!" or "you look really nice today!!" or so on- but I still say thanks- it is easier in an email than in person but still I say thank you--

Sigh- I am sorry if this makes no sense- but it upsets me some days

It really upsets me more with people that I know closer than store clerks, which I can get pretty mad with the store clerks (ha ha ha?)

Just my ramble for right now.

[roads]

You're right, beauflow. The world is rapidly changing. Things like curtesy, which serves no measurable purpose, are vanishing. I'm thinking that's the way it is now.

What might slow the breakdown is people like you & you bf's mom finding & appreciating each other. Traditions have little value beyond that which people give them freely, simply because they find pleasure in doing so.

But yeah, the little niceties of life give it a certain panache.

[Travelinglady]

I agree. A "thank you" is definitely getting rare. I always remember a friend of mine telling her young daughter to say, "Thank you" to somebody, adding, "You know she didn't have to do that for you!"

How true!

Is it me, or are people just taking more for granted now?

[Open Eyes]

I think it is a few things to be honest. We have new crowd of up and comings that were somehow raised to feel they were entitled. I actually noticed that while my daughter was competing with her horse. Some of the young girls were just driven up in their mom's mercedes and the horse was expected to be all ready for them and they went in, jumped their rounds, expected to be in first place because, after all their horse was the best. These girls and some boys, didn't think to say thank you to the groom, trainer or anyone, not even the person handing them their first place ribbon. The whole event was all expected and it was mostly considered that others should be thankful she just showed up and they had a job.

We are going to see a change now beauflow, people are not so entitled anymore.
Ofcourse there will always be those that are due to wealth. But as far as the rest of us, we are all going to learn how to be thankful eventually.

You were at least taught manners and common curtesy. That is being overlooked in parental teaching now, sorry to say.

((((Hugs))))

Open Eyes