[baboo5]

Have you ever come across someone that receives "special treatment" for no apparent reason? It's as if people feel sorry for them so they receive nice things. They don't have to work for things like most people do.

Examples:

1) My coworker (married with children). She does her job and she receives gifts. She whines and complains and she receives gifts. Then she shows me these things that people give her. Yesterday she even commented "he must feel sorry for me."

2) My cousin is divorced with three children. She shares custody with the ex. She doesn't have to work because her boyfriend will work two jobs to support her and her children. He pays her car insurance and everything. She tells me how fortunate she is. She wanted a new phone so her boyfriend bought her one.

3) I know a woman that wanted a corvette so her boyfriend bought her one.

WTF? How does this happen? Is it because they come across as needy?

Today I realized I could treat people like absolute **** and things would be no different for me.

[baboo5]

Nobody can ever answer this for me. I have asked people face to face also and they don't answer.

If someone would write a book about how to get special treatment, they could make a lot of money. :-)

[*Laurie*]

My first thought on what you wrote is not so much about the other people receiving special treatment, but more about you feeling bitter because you feel like you don't receive the same treatment as some of the others. Maybe?

I can definitely understand how you feel. I have life-long friends who seem to come into everything in life so easily. Great things just fall in their laps. I feel I have to work SO hard to deal with my mental health challenges and just to get any little thing in life. It would be easy for me to become bitter. But I really do try to count my blessings and be grateful for that which I have. I work really hard to focus on the good stuff.

[baboo5]

I do feel like I don't receive the same treatment as some of the others. I am old enough to know that it is part of life and I am used to it. I am wondering why the giver gives to some people but not others. What is the psychology behind it?

The coworker I mentioned, we work side-by-side, deal with the same people. Why does she receive special gifts from clients and I don't? Besides getting paid by the hour, she gets gifts. It's not that I want the gifts, I can buy things for myself, but what am I chopped liver?