[doggiedo]

My parents have a time share and they are going in the country to this resort in New England. I was going to go with them for the week but I wasn't sure if I wanted to spend the entire week with my rents. I'm in my 30s and haven't been on vacation in two years, so it would be nice to go. On the other hand, they said I could stay at their house and hang out with the dogs and just relax for the week. I took them up on the offer and came to their house today so they can leave first thing in the morning.

But now my mom is on the computer and showing me the place and it looks really neat. They have a two bedroom condo, the place has outdoor grok arts, indoor and outdoor pools, a salon, sauna, entertainment and shows on site every night, and an indoor bowling alley. Now I'm kinda tempted to go! In typical "me" fashion, I am hemming and hawing as to whether I should go. Is about a 4 hour drive so if I went, I'd wanna join them and drive out with them for the week. And it's peak foliage season out here, so it's gonna be gorgeous!

But if I stay at the house for the week I will be able. To read, relax, garden, hang with the dogs, see my godson, and maybe meet up with a college friend who lives in the area.

What do I do?

I'd go on the vacation!

Rummage through pants pocket. Find Quarter. Nickel or dime will do. A penny in a pinch.

Anyway...a coin. Heads resort. Tails Folks house.

Flip 'er Doggiedo! You can't lose!

I'd go for the vacation doggiedo. Sounds awesome and the foliage is worth seeing

[doggiedo]

I didn't pack stuff I need tho, including my suit and a nice outfit for dinner, etc.

[missbelle]

Do whatever you want!!!

[doggiedo]

That's the thing- idk what i wanna do! I always think I'm gonna miss out if I stay OR if I go- idk, can't decide.

[lizardlady]

Doggiedo, my mom taught me a "trick" to uncover what I really wanted when I was a kid. Flip a coin picking heads or tails ahead of time. How you feel after the coin toss will tell you which you "really" wanted. If you're happy with the outcome, then that's what you wanted deep down. If you're disappointed with the outcome, then deep down you want the other choice. Go with what you "really" want.

Something else to consider... how do you get along with the 'rents? You are going to be living in each others' hip pocket for the week. If a day with the 'rents makes you want to rip your hair out a week with them could end up being pure misery.

[doggiedo]

Hey Izzle and lizard, thanks for the advice! I did that and it came out tails but it don't help. Part of me does wanna go and part of me doesn't. I can probably so a good 4 days with my parents before I want my own space. This place is a 2 bedroom condo so I'll have it but idk. Will I look back after they are gone and say I wish I had done it? Or wil I be bored at the house all alone for the week? Will 4 dogs drive me nutso? Will the dogsitter even take then at this point since we told her we didn't need her and I would only need her as backup (in case I wanna do a day trip or something). Still undecided. It's 7am here and rents leave at 10am...I gotta figure this out.

The coin idea is great, in theory, lol. I'm just a weirdo! Lol

Originally Posted by unhappyguy

I'd go on the vacation!

yeah, go and have fun!

[Pikku Myy]

I believe it is good to get our of your comfort zone.... you may like the new place better Just make sure you let everyone know... you want your piece and privacy <3 Have fun!!!

[doggiedo]

Hum good point. Even meeting up with my godson and college friend are out of my comfort zone. Normally I would just isolate. I'm leaning toward staying. I just feel bad. Like I'm going to miss out on quality time with the parents...

[Pikku Myy]

Doggiedo sweetie... then maybe YOU take a break.... and stay in your comfort zone Nothing at all wrong with this... and tell the other family that YOU need space right now There is nothing wrong with this either I also like my own enviroment and company, but often do get surpriced how happy I am to see family Doggiedo, just sometimes... when you are ready... it is very positive to get out of your comfort zone Hugs & don't stress over this too much..... been there and best decision is to be honest with your family.

[doggiedo]

Thanks. I decided to stay here. I have already vacuumed, washed the windows inside the house,and cleaned the vent in the bathroom. Now I'm not sure if I wanna go work outside or inside. I'm meeting with my counselor on sat for a med check in, I need to figure how to make decisions, this is getting rediculous. Thanks for the support guys.

I am going to relax me take care of myself this week

[lizardlady]

Originally Posted by doggiedo

Thanks. I decided to stay here. I have already vacuumed, washed the windows inside the house,and cleaned the vent in the bathroom. Now I'm not sure if I wanna go work outside or inside. I'm meeting with my counselor on sat for a med check in, I need to figure how to make decisions, this is getting rediculous. Thanks for the support guys.

I am going to relax me take care of myself this week

You sound comfortable with the decision. That's good. Taking care of yourself should be prioirty number one!

I took a two week "stay-cation" this summer. There's a part of me that wants to travel and see new sights, but the larger part of me just wanted to veg at home with my critters. I loved the time to be at home snuggling with the animals, resting and taking care of myself.

[doggiedo]

Lizard lady- glad u can relate

Update- didn't fall alseep until 1am, then up at 4am with a puking dog, and then up at 7am with a sick dog- just had to bring him to the vet bc he's all bound up. Great way to start the week, ugh. Long vacation. That's what I get for staying home I guess.

[Rohag]

Originally Posted by doggiedo

...then up at 4am with a puking dog, and then up at 7am with a sick dog...

I don't know how this will affect your vacation, but investing yourself in the care and comfort of your dogs is exceptionally praiseworthy.

[doggiedo]

Aw thx. One dog is mine, 3 are my parents. It's hard to know what to do when they aren't your dog and aren't really sure what's normal. Oh well

[Iamnutty]

I went on vacation in July and it was the best thing for me. My anxiety and stuff went away. BUT staying home with the dogs is also great. For me I sleep TOOO much so a holiday for me is to crawl into a bed and not be disturbed. Longest time I have done that is for two days.

Vacations you can always take later on in life.