[jadzea]

There were some dialogues posted yesterday that caused some pain and hard feelings. I have a very quick temper and used to blurt things out without thinking. I also worked for a bully who was mercyless. I suffer from depressions and MS. I have seen and experienced how words can destroy a person and my heart goes out to the ones offended. I follow three basic guides to help me control myself and not cut someone off at the knees with my words. I decided to share them. Maybe they will help someone else.

1. I try very hard to practice the golden rule. I try to treat others the way I want to be treated.

2. Although I am not really religious I wholeheartedly try to live by this snippet from a well known prayer - forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass agains us.

3. I don't know where it came from but I have had a card on my refrigerator for years that list three things to consider before speaking. They are:
-Is it the truth?
-Is it necessary?
-Will it help the situation?
If I cannot answer, "yes" to these three questions, I don't say anything.

[Travelinglady]

Thanks, jad. Yes, sometimes tempers do fly. Of course, we have to remember that most all of us have diagnosed mental disorders and sometimes we get off track. Your suggestions are excellent.

BTW, the questions you have on your fridge sound like what Dear Abby has written. And that's good advice, too!