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Old Jun 03, 2013, 01:41 PM
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  • Money
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  • Intimacy
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Old Jun 03, 2013, 04:26 PM
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Old Jun 03, 2013, 04:36 PM
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Old Jun 03, 2013, 04:37 PM
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Depends on who, why, and how you ask; I don't think asking for these things is wrong, bad, or hopeless. Other people can't read your mind as to what you want and telling them what you would like is pretty much the only way to see if that person can/will give it to you. Waiting for those things to just drop in your lap doesn't work so good either.
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Old Jun 03, 2013, 11:25 PM
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Old Jun 04, 2013, 01:33 AM
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help--at least not in the way you really need it (if people do help, its usually the way they want you to be helped and only so they can say they helped you)

for people to either mean it when they offer you help, or not to bother offering in the first place
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Old Jun 04, 2013, 02:37 AM
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Old Jun 04, 2013, 02:45 AM
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Anything else?
These are things that you have to give to yourself first. Then you gradually extend that to giving them to other people. Finally you move on to getting them back from other people. And this is a matter of technique; you really do as a technique, start by giving to yourself.
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Old Jun 04, 2013, 03:59 AM
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Old Jun 04, 2013, 10:24 AM
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Old Jun 04, 2013, 02:11 PM
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Old Jun 04, 2013, 10:46 PM
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friendship, money, care, love, appreciation. people always take advantage of me in some ways. like if they need me for something, they'll tell me to do it for them and i would do it anyway. but after a while, they'll just give me the cold shoulders. like Instead of doing them a favor, i did not help them at all. That's how I feel. I'm taken for granted.
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Old Jun 04, 2013, 10:51 PM
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Old Jun 04, 2013, 11:43 PM
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Old Jun 05, 2013, 12:00 AM
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Old Jun 05, 2013, 12:21 AM
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I differ with most of you... Most things have to be asked for, after you give them, when you need the, but like one here said, it's about when, where, how, & the means you ask them through...

Even if for your whole life, you ask for something, & you don't get it, it's probably 'cause you ask it from the wrong person or in the wrong context/way, but the important thins is that you learn & gain experience from all these failures, until you finally get it from the right person, by the right way, & in the right time & place...

You never fail until you stop trying...
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