[possum220]

As the festive season draws near and the thoughts of what to buy for family and friends there always seems to be one fly in the ointment.... or maybe several. I dont have a whole lot of money so I try and get things that people would like or find useful. I used to buy him calendars but now he buys his own. Anything I suggest he says ............. boring.

My brother is very hard to buy for. Years ago when he wasnt working he bought no-one presents. Not even a 50 cent mug from an OP shop. He is very specific in the things he likes. He likes expensive things. Things that have well known labels/brands. Now he has a job he has to make sure that what he buys others makes a statement, and also makes others jealous. To put it mildly he is a snob.

Last year I bought him a computer mouse for him that was in the shape of a sports car. I thought it was cute. Yesterday I was in his computer room and I couldn't see it anywhere. Not even decoration.

So what to I do? Get him something useless or get him nothing? Wish I could change his attitude.

[Travelinglady]

I know what you mean. I've gotten to the point where I ask people to make me a list of what they might want for Christmas, and depending on the price, I get one or more of the items.

I have given gifts in the past that folks have sold almost immediately at yard sales or otherwise shown their lack of excitement about them.

[Marla500]

@Payne, I hate when that happens! that's just mean.

@Possum, since it doesn't seem possible to make him happy, could you make a donation in his name to a cause that he has? or something along those lines?

[possum220]

Responses appreciated Payne and Marla

For some people now it seems that the thought doesn't count any more. I asked him what he might like but he said it was too early, translation, he couldn't be bothered. I would be very sad if somebody sold my gift. That's sad and hurtful Payne.

I did think of going down the voucher for other causes Marla but the only cause my brother has is himself. Thanks for trying though.

The most special presents I had last year were hand made. Another year I received a voucher for a mosquito net for a family in Africa and I felt good about it. I just don't understand my brother.

[Marla500]

I know, I would be honored to get that kind of a gift! In any case I know it's hard but please don't let it bother you too much, try to concentrate on the people who appreciate you and your thoughtfulness, that's what it's all about!

[possum220]

Yes, it is time to turn the page over on this. At least for a month. Thanks for your kind words of support Marla.