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#1
Nov 21, 2014, 07:14 PM
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I'm so used to having people around on Thanksgiving, but there will be no one this year. My ex has the kids this year (we switch each year), and my boyfriend (paramedic) will be working until late that day. It will be just me and the dogs, and no Thanksgiving dinner. I know I should be grateful for a roof over my head, but it's still going to be a sad day. :-(
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 ak482, Blue_Bird, jelly-bean, lizardlady, nushi, shezbut, Webgoji
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#2
Nov 21, 2014, 07:22 PM
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My Thanksgiving is going to be just like yours. Maybe you should go ahead and make a small Thanksgiving dinner for just you and your boyfriend and have it ready when he gets done working. You would both have something to look forward to then.
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#3
Nov 21, 2014, 07:25 PM
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I get it that you are sad about not being with your children but ... can you let go of the idea of what 'should be' and create a nice day for yourself? What do you like to do? Make time for it and accept that it is OK to do this thing for you. It is rare that I have a day all to myself so I cherish those.
 If it were me, I would make some crafts, take a hot bath, surf the internet, eat a take-out dinner, watch an old movie I like, call a friend, etc. I am sure you have your own list of things you love to do. Do them. Next thing you know, the day will be over and it might have been better than you had hoped. Give thanks on Thanksgiving that you are you.
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| Blue_Bird, eskielover, gloamingone, Mountainbard, nushi, seeker1950
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#4
Nov 22, 2014, 05:52 AM
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Me too......
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| lizardlady, nushi, seeker1950
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#5
Nov 22, 2014, 06:43 AM
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Nov 22, 2014, 07:00 AM
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I agree with jelly-bean - do something special with your boy friend. He is probably just as bummed as you to be working.
Do any services/organisations near you provide a meal for the homeless?. Maybe you could go volunteer during the day and not be alone. Little Lulu had some good suggestions too. Maybe you could make plans to see your children either day next to Thanksgiving. |
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#7
Nov 22, 2014, 08:21 AM
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It probably wouldn't be so bad if I wasn't alone every day. Kids in school, boyfriend at work, no friends...you get it.
Anyway, I like the idea of helping the homeless. I'll look into that. Yesterday I contacted an organization that keeps seniors company. I offered my grooming services for free to them. Maybe I'll see if they need people to hang out with seniors on Thanksgiving, too. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk |
| possum220, seeker1950
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| lizardlady
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#8
Nov 23, 2014, 11:35 AM
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Alone on Thanksgiving has come up in several different threads. Someone suggested a virtual Thanksgiving here at PC. Everyone is welcome to join that.
Someone mentioned trying to stay away from the "shoulds". TV and society fill our heads with how the holidays "should" be. The reality is so different for most. When I still had family alive I used to dread the holidays because it meant days of high level stress. Now that I'm alone I'm sad because I'm going to be alone. I remind myself I can't have it both ways. Still I'm sad. I agree with the others who suggested having Thanksgiving dinner with your boyfriend when he gets off work. In addition what would you like to do that day? What sort of things can you do that will bring you pleasure? Thank you so much for volunteering to look after the elderly. When my mom was in a nursing home, then assisted living, it used to break my heart to see how many of the other residents never had visitors. I used to have dinner with Mom a couple times a week at the assisted living. I made a point of bringing her tablemates little things like cookies when I visited. |
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Nov 23, 2014, 11:37 AM
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I dearly love seniors. They have so much wisdom and humor. I emailed the organization and told them I was available for Thanksgiving, so hopefully it will work out. I'm excited! Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk |
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| lizardlady, seeker1950
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#10
Nov 24, 2014, 05:00 PM
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Yes, let's start a Surviving the holiday support thread
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| lizardlady, seeker1950
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Nov 27, 2014, 06:47 PM
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Well, volunteering fell through. I never heard back from the coordinator. I've been sitting by myself all day. Took a long nap earlier and am thinking of doing it again, bc being alone today SUCKS. My boyfriend wants to go out for dinner, but he won't be home for at least a couple hours.
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#12
Nov 28, 2014, 07:14 AM
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Hope you got to go out with your boyfriend and had a good time.
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Nov 28, 2014, 07:17 AM
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Thanks! It was ok. The place he had his heart set on closed before he got home, so we went to IHOP. He's a paramedic and had a late call, so by the time we ate and got home it was bedtime. He was the only human I saw yesterday, and it was only for 90 minutes. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk |
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Nov 28, 2014, 07:31 AM
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Nov 28, 2014, 09:31 PM
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My one family member, daughter, lives in Europe. I did receive a "Happy Thanksgiving" email from her.
I went across the street to share the Thanksgiving dinner with my lovely friend/neighbor. I enjoyed the meal, and I am thankful. 
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