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Mar 14, 2015, 05:49 AM
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I don't even know where to put this post.
I have to drive from NH to Fairfax, Virginia today all by myself, well with my little dog. I have a driving phobia and sit in high anxiety the entire time. My husband, in order for me to avoid NY City, advised me to plug in Mishawum, NJ then once I reach that plug in the Virginia address because it will avoid NY city roads. I'm scared to death.
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 Anonymous37781, BeaFlower, Onward2wards, Smileonmyface, Webgoji
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#2
Mar 14, 2015, 06:04 AM
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Hang in there. You're going through some really pretty scenery and your husband has sent you around the worst of it. I applaud your bravery. Nothing like facing your phobia head-on!
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Mar 14, 2015, 07:36 AM
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I can relate drove from NY to pa twice through NYC and the Bronx with 2yo DD in the back I was scared but it was ok and you will be ok too! You're smart to avoid the city. Just take breaks and put on some good music. You are brave to face your fears
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Mar 14, 2015, 07:51 AM
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10 hours is a long drive even for someone without a driving phobia. I agree you should take several breaks. You could always check here with updates on your breaks.
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Mar 14, 2015, 12:37 PM
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Wow, you're really brave just to consider doing it. I have driving phobia too, so I understand. Try to think that you are able to drive, it's 'only' your phobia that makes you think that you can't. You'll do well and you'll be proud of yourself. Take breaks when you're tired, and let us know
 You're really brave.
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Mar 14, 2015, 07:36 PM
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3 major panic attacks and one flashback when I got in 95 north instead of south and ended up by the George Washington Bridge trying to find my way back. I was hysterically crying and thought for sure I was going to pull over to pass out. 10 hrs hyper vigilant and in a state of panic.
Now I will have to do the return trip on Thursday.
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When a child’s emotional needs are not met and a child is repeatedly hurt and abused, this deeply and profoundly affects the child’s development. Wanting those unmet childhood needs in adulthood. Looking for safety, protection, being cherished and loved can often be normal unmet needs in childhood, and the survivor searches for these in other adults. This can be where survivors search for mother and father figures. Transference issues in counseling can occur and this is normal for childhood abuse survivors. |
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Mar 14, 2015, 07:56 PM
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Moxie, you're moving to my old stomping grounds. You are making the trip of a lifetime and as many years I lived there, getting on wrong interstate there was way too easy. You're doing better than you know! Hang in there.
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Mar 14, 2015, 08:12 PM
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Oh no~ I hate when I go the wrong way. I made a weekend run up North once and the next morning I got right back on the highway going north. I think I went a good 20 miles before I realized my mistake. Could have been further~ I was ticked.
Glad you made it. That's a long drive without the hyper vigilance. Hopefully you'll have a restful sleep tonight.
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Mar 15, 2015, 03:56 AM
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That was a long haul. Please try and have a few distractions for the trip home.
Break the trip in two by sleeping some place overnight? Fun music? Cool candy? Stopping the car for a break and walk around for a little bit? Plan a couple of phone calls? Have a good meal for a break in a nice place. Do some shoulder rolls to ease some of the tension out of your neck. What would you like? After you get home put a heat pack on your neck/shoulder area. |
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Mar 15, 2015, 06:37 AM
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I couldn't listen to any music because it I need to listen to the GPS and stay focused. Music distracts and many songs are triggering. So silence the entire 10 min. I used the Waze app. Thar allows you to share your drive with friends and family. They can actually see you driving real time on a map. My husband could see me getting into trouble near NYC. He kept calling me but all I could do was was cry and be hysterical.
I did stop 3 times: bathroom, coffee, gas and my dog had to potty. I did not stop long as It only prolonged my anxiety. Had to get it over with. I brought food with me: cherry tomatoes, celery, ants on a log, quest bars. I could not calm down last night even with 2 xanax and 1/2 a Klonopin. Today we go around with realtor looking for a condo to lease. I don't know how I am going to handle that. I don't want to move.
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When a child’s emotional needs are not met and a child is repeatedly hurt and abused, this deeply and profoundly affects the child’s development. Wanting those unmet childhood needs in adulthood. Looking for safety, protection, being cherished and loved can often be normal unmet needs in childhood, and the survivor searches for these in other adults. This can be where survivors search for mother and father figures. Transference issues in counseling can occur and this is normal for childhood abuse survivors. |
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#11
Mar 15, 2015, 07:04 AM
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((((MoxieDoxie)))) I'm sorry that you had panic
 You did well however, because you have been able to arrive at the end though all the anxiety. I agree that long pauses could make it worse, but if you happen to feel really to upset you could take a short pause, just to collect some energy to go on. I'm sorry that you have this stress, but take deep breaths and think that you'll do well (because you did well, after all) and that it will be finished sooner than you think. A suggestion for when you go home: I know that it's difficult, but try to plan some short drivings now and then and to drive for more and more long times, gradually. So, if another ling drive happens it will be less scary. We are with you
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