[LiteraryLark]

I've posted two or three times about dealing with an online bully. It's her mission to make me feel as miserable as possible on the chat. She spent all night calling me fat and ugly and how obsessed I am with her and how all I do is talk about her (which is all untrue, I never talk about her with people on the chat, I just say I'm tired dealing with trolls). She told me to leave and when I said I wasn't going to and I was standing up for myself she just laughed and threw more insults at me. Then she made a fake profile of me "attacking" her and then she went back to her profile and acted like I was the one insulting her. And then she did it again, and I told her to stop. Then someone else entirely whom I've never spoken to before used my picture and made fun of me. Then the other bully pretended to be me again.

I hate this. I hate that I can't be me on the chat. I'm different and unique and people on the chat see that as weakness and something to make fun of. I don't know what to do. There are no admins on the site and no way to report them. I've tried taking screen shots of what she says but what's the point? It'll only give her something to laugh at.

I want to change my name to something people will like such as Johnny Knoxville from the show Jack*** and pretend to be someone else, but why should I? Why do I have to pretend to be someone else or leave the chat because of bullies? Why can't I just be me?

[Row Jimmy]

Hey someone else like me is awake! Great!

Well, here's my take (anyway). Please don't misinterpret it but IMO, it's solid advice.

I'm a firm believer in not making yourself a victim (or at least minimizing the chance). Don't want to be mugged? Don't walk the streets at 3AM. Don't want to be bullied on line? Get off the thread. The sad truth is 1) there are plenty of people out there like her and 2) there's not much you can do about it. She's not going away any time soon. You and I both know that!

Bullying is a lot about control. I'm also a firm believer in taking control.......and being arrogant about it. This is about YOU! A good way to avoid her controlling you is to step away from the blog for good. Why go back and take the beating again and again?

It's sort of like controlling our BP. I'm not a perfect person by any means but I've learned over the years to choose a better path. I'm recently diagnosed (January) and I'm 50 years old so I had to make some big changes in my life. I stopped drinking. I LOVE to drink - good red wine, good beer, any bourbon will do, you name it. But I had to stop because it was adding to my misery. I'm also getting off my kiester and hitting the gym. Making all those positive choices isn't easy, but they will help.

Toronto, yes? I used to travel a lot to Toronto for business, stayed up in Concord. I very much enjoy your city.

OK, Rock On, Sister LiteraryLark!

[LiteraryLark]

Originally Posted by Row Jimmy

Hey someone else like me is awake! Great!

Well, here's my take (anyway). Please don't misinterpret it but IMO, it's solid advice.

I'm a firm believer in not making yourself a victim (or at least minimizing the chance). Don't want to be mugged? Don't walk the streets at 3AM. Don't want to be bullied on line? Get off the thread. The sad truth is 1) there are plenty of people out there like her and 2) there's not much you can do about it. She's not going away any time soon. You and I both know that!

Bullying is a lot about control. I'm also a firm believer in taking control.......and being arrogant about it. This is about YOU! A good way to avoid her controlling you is to step away from the blog for good. Why go back and take the beating again and again?

It's sort of like controlling our BP. I'm not a perfect person by any means but I've learned over the years to choose a better path. I'm recently diagnosed (January) and I'm 50 years old so I had to make some big changes in my life. I stopped drinking. I LOVE to drink - good red wine, good beer, any bourbon will do, you name it. But I had to stop because it was adding to my misery. I'm also getting off my kiester and hitting the gym. Making all those positive choices isn't easy, but they will help.

OK, Rock On, Sister LiteraryLark!

I completely agree with you 100%. I will admit I do cross lines in the chatroom with the content I share, but I never attack others. The chatroom is linked to deadmau5, and he pops in the chat to talk to the other members and once he's finished building his studio he's going to be on the chat all the time. I'm in the chatroom to connect with my idol, and I try to talk to other people but she goes out of her way to harass me. And she harasses plenty of other members too. I'm currently watching her take on the other queen bee. I hate to admit it but the drama sucks me in.

I don't want to leave the chat because deadmau5 goes on the chat quite often and he'll be in the chat more once he's back making music, and watching him make music is my favorite thing in the whole world.

So what do I do? Only go on when he's on? She may harass me then but I'd be so sucked into watching him I won't be active on the chat unless he's chatting.

[Crazy Hitch]

Wow .... sounds nasty!

Not sure what website you're referring to.

Do they have some kind of ignore feature?

PsychCentral Chatrooms have an ignore button