[LadyShadow]

Hey there!

I used to be PlatinumHeart (for those that know me) and I haven't posted anything new in quite sometime. I just wanted to make a complete generalization about some of the people I have met via internet these days.

Some people really lack conversational skills

I UNDERSTAND I am making a very broad generalization but DAMN its so hard to find GOOD conversation these days!! Does anyone agree? I mean I have a blog and I feel I have been writing too much on it. I joined PenPal World, (which is a complete scam as you can only send 3 messages per day including incoming and outgoing). I tried looking at other forums but I have gotten so much anxiety looking at how complicated it is. I even tried the age old chatrooms in which the conversation in there is so meaningless and infantile I just want to pull my hair out! UGH!

I also know what you're thinking, "she probably needs a dude" So untrue! And shame on you for thinking such a thing! LOL Just kidding. I think I am too much of a manic mess to handle a relationship. I need several "dudes' or even "dudettes" Just you know someone to friggin talk to! Why is this so hard!!!!????

I guess I just need a few more friends in my life to confide in and perhaps have some meaningful conversations? I have also cut ties with some toxic people as of late and have ghosted others in the past. Is this my "ghosting" karma?

By the way if you want to have a new friend and you're looking for a penpal via email or through PsychCentral, I am your gal! PLEASE FEEL FREE TO PM me, I am dying over here!

(And yes, I could go out to events and meet people but I am a coward and get anxious around most people. Plus my self esteem is shot).

But does anyone else feel this way? Please feel free to rant and share your story with me!

[BlossomingLen]

Hello there! It's a pleasure to meet you! How're you doing today? Good, I hope.

Unfortunately, I do know what you mean. I've recently lost a lot of friends all in the same group, and they were all very awkward. They didn't really know how to carry a conversation and all of them were really apathetic, in a way. I won't go into too much detail, but I do have experience with people who don't really know how to carry conversations.

As someone who wants to become a Psychologist, I've spoken with a lot of people who wish to talk about their problems but don't know how to express it. So, I don't blame them. I understand how difficult it can be to express how you feel sometimes. Even so, in some situations, it can be somewhat bothersome. I just wish to befriend people. Especially after losing so many friends. Yet, because I'm not that social of a person in real life, I talk to people online. But even when I speak to people online, it's very clunky and often distant. People don't wish to open up and I think it's kind of strange.

Either way, I'm sure they have their reasons for being that way. So, I remain patient.

[Seablisse]

Hey feel free to PM me...Lately I feel like I am about to lose my socialization skills for lack of people to talk too. Like you I have cut all toxic people completely out of my life. I refuse any and all "drama" period. I would love a new friend to talk too!!!

Hi I absolutely understand

Hi there LadyShadow, completely 'get' this, for me my friends are an important part of my life - company and conversation are essential.

You can PM me, just to chat, mull over, whatever.

[Ceridwen18]

Hi LadyShadow. There's nothing like a good conversation, is there? I know exactly what you mean! I'm lucky in that I have a handful of close friends, and when we get to talk (not often), it's balm for the soul. It isn't always deep and meaningful, and sometimes it's downright silly, but the act of communication, the joy of hearing and being heard! That is a gift, in whatever form it comes.
I'm new on here, and keen to chat to anyone. Most evenings I'm at home with my two teenage boys (grunting is the norm), and I work with other people's grumpy teenagers all day. Always up for a chat!

[Lookn4mylife]

Originally Posted by LadyShadow

Hey there!

I used to be PlatinumHeart (for those that know me) and I haven't posted anything new in quite sometime. I just wanted to make a complete generalization about some of the people I have met via internet these days.

Some people really lack conversational skills

I UNDERSTAND I am making a very broad generalization but DAMN its so hard to find GOOD conversation these days!! Does anyone agree? I mean I have a blog and I feel I have been writing too much on it. I joined PenPal World, (which is a complete scam as you can only send 3 messages per day including incoming and outgoing). I tried looking at other forums but I have gotten so much anxiety looking at how complicated it is. I even tried the age old chatrooms in which the conversation in there is so meaningless and infantile I just want to pull my hair out! UGH!

I also know what you're thinking, "she probably needs a dude" So untrue! And shame on you for thinking such a thing! LOL Just kidding. I think I am too much of a manic mess to handle a relationship. I need several "dudes' or even "dudettes" Just you know someone to friggin talk to! Why is this so hard!!!!????

I guess I just need a few more friends in my life to confide in and perhaps have some meaningful conversations? I have also cut ties with some toxic people as of late and have ghosted others in the past. Is this my "ghosting" karma?

By the way if you want to have a new friend and you're looking for a penpal via email or through PsychCentral, I am your gal! PLEASE FEEL FREE TO PM me, I am dying over here!

(And yes, I could go out to events and meet people but I am a coward and get anxious around most people. Plus my self esteem is shot).

But does anyone else feel this way? Please feel free to rant and share your story with me!

Sent you a PM. Hope to hear from you soon.

[eskielover]

Ugh, I grew up with parents who had no idea how to have a conversation, let alone a good discussion....so obviously I didn't learn from them. I had a friend from junior High until when we got married (around 21) who I had my real conversations with.

Go figure, I thought education would make a difference, but ended up marrying someone just like my parents. Conversation usually amounted to him looking at me like I was speaking a foreign language. It was always a battle to have any kind of meaningful conversation....don't think we really ever had one in the 33 years I stayed in the marriage.

It's been an awesome experience now that my life seems to be around normal people. I am actually learning how to have a normal, real conversation. At first I would get so nervous I would forget what I was trying to say.....thought I was gettinging Alzheimer's......but with time, I have been able to really find the words to express myself & found out that my problem was more fighting their inability to have a reasonable conversation as I am really feeling comfortable talking to people like I never did all my previous years of my life. It's been Alan awesome learning experience to realize that it was inside of me all along but just wasn't in an environment to be able to express myself & have a normal conversation....not because I wasnt capable but because those around me weren't & I was so used to having to say something a dozen different ways to get them to understand what I was saying I had begone to wonder what was wrong with me until I got away from that environment.

grew up required to pick something from day's current events to present at dinner.Also, father is an acedemic so grew up with a library in the den. I was required to report on a new book read each week.

I'm simply afraid of any intimacy and very fearful of coming out from my anonymous shell. And when I've come across something interesting here and I reply, that person seems to suddenly disappear.

My mood is also very inconsistent - I'm in a manic phase at the moment and have been for nearly two weeks. Although I use personal stories to illustrate my POV on a subject, I try to shade those stories, without lying, to stay hidden. I fear that the inconsistency of my mood would, at the least, effect the frequency of my replies.

I was once a great conversationalist and communicator and a year or so before this latest breakdown I thought that having an email exchange or (as suggested here) a Skype, etc., pen-pal communication could be beneficial - and fun.

But I no longer feel that I can trust anyone. I'm terribly lonely but I would never respond to any sort of PM's, etc. Only to out in the open conversation. Very paranoid lately.

[TishaBuv]

I love exchanges of ideas and can communicate on most any subject. I've enjoy many conversation threads on here in the Social Chat section. My friends IRL are pretty one dimensional. I am enjoying the company of strangers on here more than what I have in person lately.

My family are great conversationalists and thinkers. We always had people over, such characters! Some of them famous. Hilarious!

Can we talk???