[tryingtobeconstruct]

Tomorrow I’m going to a big social event that promises and threatens to have lots of people I know.

At least two of those people I’ve avoided for the last two years. Seeing them could bring back some very unhappy emotions from the last time we saw each other. Frankly, I hope they’re not there, but if they are, I hope I can just sort of deal with it.

OTOH, I might, just possibly might actually have fun. Well… not fun. I don’t do fun. Productive would be a better word.

See, the one damn thing that’s gone right for me lately has been that I’ve been getting into shape. Somehow, I’m breaking a lifetime of unhealthiness. I’m actually looking pretty good. Believe me, I NEVER say that sort of thing about myself. I’ve always looked in the mirror and hated what I see. But lately, well, there’s no getting around it. I’m looking better. I’m no body builder, but… I have been building body. I find I carry myself with a lot more confidence than I used to.

Tomorrow will be the first time I’ve gone out in clothes that show off my new physique and confidence. I have this daydream that I might attract a nice lady to spend time with. It’s a long shot, but that’s why I’ve been working so hard on my appearance.

So. One to two people I don’t want to see and zero to one people I do want to see. I guess those are better odds than I’m used to.

Requesting good energy.

[Raindropvampire]

Good energy being sent your way

[Mysticcheezwhiz]

Sending positive energy your way.

[MickeyCheeky]

Good luck!

[NikoleS]

Good luck! Show off your bod make people jelly haha

Is there any way to busy yourself at this event? Can you offer to help out in some way? I get a great deal of anxiety at events I regularly find myself committed to attend. I practise avoidance by finding something to do to assist preparing, then facilitating, and follow-up. Example, at a dinner function I will busy myself in the kitchen before and after. It means less interaction with, in my case, people I find intimidating.

On the other hand it seems you have every reason to mingle and do so with your head held up high.

[Unrigged64072835]

Best of luck to you at this event.

[fishin fool]

Good luck, you got this.

[tryingtobeconstruct]

First, guys, I gotta say I am amazed at the responsiveness of this group. It really helps to feel like finally somebody listens.

The evening went ok. I met some nice people, hippies mostly (that’s good to me). Everybody was friendly and ready to let me join the conversation. The people I didn’t want to see weren’t there. I got a lot of compliments about how I looked.

The best part was that when I told a friend that I’m looking for a girlfriend she embraced the idea. She quickly said she’d give my number to someone she knows. She also said she has a few other candidates in mind. That’s a start.

It’s been so long since I’ve felt the touch of a woman. That is some happiness I want. I feel selfish wanting this for myself, but there it is.

Thanks for the responses. That feels good.

how did you fair? Did it turn out okay?

[tryingtobeconstruct]

Originally Posted by justafriend306

Is there any way to busy yourself at this event?

I often to find ways to get some control on the social situation at gatherings. In this case I tried to be bold and just walk up to tables of people and ask to join. Hippies are pretty cool about letting you do that.

[tryingtobeconstruct]

Originally Posted by justafriend306

how did you fair? Did it turn out okay?

It went OK, though I wouldn't say it was a memorable or wonderful evening. I went, I socialized, I provided some food service consulting to the new restaurant in exchange for some polenta. All in all not not bad but if that's all that comes out of these gatherings then they're not worth my time.