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Default Aug 10, 2018 at 08:07 PM
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Is there a connection? I know two people with severe BPD who seek attention for physical issues. I know someone on Facebook who has shaved her head so people will think she has cancer.

Why do people do this?

I’m not trying to be an *** or start arguments, I just don’t understand this.

Do they really wish they had cancer or some other disease?

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Hmm. My best guess is that a person who shaves her head and actually tells people that she has cancer or says that she hopes they think she has cancer is absolutely desperate for attention and love. No, I very much doubt that they really want a disease; they just want to be cared about.


But be cautious: People who do such things can be seriously disturbed, and turn abusive very fast. My mom (who had severe BPD) was one who loved being "sick" because she desperately needed to believe that she was worthy of love and attention. Sooner or later, however, she would viciously turn on anyone who showed her love and care. There was something terribly deranged about her thought process.


Now, just shaving one's head is not at all (to me) the same thing as shaving one's head to mislead people. Some people shave their heads for style (I have).
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Is there a connection? I know two people with severe BPD who seek attention for physical issues. I know someone on Facebook who has shaved her head so people will think she has cancer.

Why do people do this?

I’m not trying to be an *** or start arguments, I just don’t understand this.

Do they really wish they had cancer or some other disease?


I knew someone exactly like that.

and she had BPD too.

when I asked her why she wished she had cancer, she said...

" because nothing ever happens to me."

not quite sure what she meant by that.. but yeah
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I have BPD. I have been told I'm an attention seeker. I've got blue hair, tattoos and piercings. I'm quite opinionated and extroverted. I flirt a lot. So forth and so on. I am not to the extremes that you are talking about, but I can understand to a degree.

Why do we seek attention? Well in my specific case I think I developed BPD when my dad abandoned me as a child. I think it would be reasonable to concur that I seek attention to make up for what I lacked as a child, to feel wanted and purposeful.

People who seek attention likely need it for their heart and souls. I imagine how hurt someone must be on the inside to fake cancer. Like the song says: what the world needs now is love, sweet love. Its the only thing there is just too little of.
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Beautiful post^^^^^
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I have BPD. I have been told I'm an attention seeker. I've got blue hair, tattoos and piercings. I'm quite opinionated and extroverted. I flirt a lot. So forth and so on. I am not to the extremes that you are talking about, but I can understand to a degree.

Why do we seek attention? Well in my specific case I think I developed BPD when my dad abandoned me as a child. I think it would be reasonable to concur that I seek attention to make up for what I lacked as a child, to feel wanted and purposeful.

People who seek attention likely need it for their heart and souls. I imagine how hurt someone must be on the inside to fake cancer. Like the song says: what the world needs now is love, sweet love. Its the only thing there is just too little of.
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My mom’s death was my first abandonment. I have BPD, too, and very real and severe abandonment issues.

My shock-white hair is long and wild: Attempts to tame it are fruitless.

I have visible piercings and I wear both loud and subdued silk shirts. And hats. I don’t leave my apartment without a hat on my head. No ‘caps,’ though! I don’t need to be the prime attraction but, yeah, I feel a need to be noticed.

Opinionated, extroverted, wickedly flirtatious. And so very, very sure of myself. That’s my folly (R.E.M.).

I know that I can... fascinate some folks. Weave words into rainbows, master a debate, speak and convince. I am so self-assured, seemingly, that it rubs off and increases other’s self-esteem.

Yes. I seek approval, I want to be liked, I want to be loved.

But.

As a (tragically) ill man, I cannot grasp the intentions of those who feign illnesses. My recent hospitalization proved to me, once again, that doctors don’t listen/spend as little time as possible with patients, that every heartbeat can be wirelessly transmitted by machines so that physical contact is minimal, and that specialists are as flummoxed as shoe-salesmen when faced with those suffering from the 1% diseases.

Maybe that’s why they can be fooled by fakers?

Hurt. I hurt, you hurt, they hurt, we all hurt. I needed the Novocain of sex to soothe my pain. The only way that I can understand the Munchausens’ is by way of my own mental disorders, I think. I’ve been won over by the psychiatric neurologists who posit that mental illnesses are truly ‘brain diseases’ that present with, or without, environmental influences.

I say it over and over and over — I cannot help but do what I do.

So, I suppose, I can accept these people as fellow mentally unfit folk. Bad brains, bad environments, the causes.

MD/doctors are stupid, stupid people. But blood work and x-rays and MRIs and CTs and all those other crappy tests don’t lie, and I’m guessing that these
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