[mugwort2]

Quite upset right now.OTOH I'm not suicidal. As a member of a certain social network I wrote I disliked the movie "Goonies" . Okay I strongly expressed myself. A member of the same social network told me to gfy and gfo. , lastly stfu. My reaction was a real overreaction to an opinion. Should be upset Comments too that I need to work on my grammar. That didn't hurt as much since I took it *** constructive criticism. I admit I can be sloppy with my grammar . OTOH I am brushing on grammar. Born in the US.

@mugwort2 - I'm so sorry to hear that people were so mean in response to your opinion. I sometimes struggle with grammar, too. I was born here, earned straight A's in college, but still struggle sometimes with grammar. When we're feeling strong emotions about something, it's hard to think about grammar at the same time.

Perhaps you were struggling with a trigger from that movie, or perhaps you just simply disliked that movie, and you wanted to share your opinion. Maybe others were offended because it is their favorite movie, or perhaps they don't know how to kindly listen to critiques without taking it personally. But them telling you those things was uncalled for. They could have asked you why you felt so strongly, or to elaborate. They could have just kindly said they were hurt by what you said, and why they like the movie so much. They could have been more sensitive, too.

Then again, we can all learn something from our experiences with opposing minds. It's not easy, especially when we feel strongly about an issue. I felt really hurt and torn from movies on DID because they almost always paint a very negative and stigmatizing picture - albeit way overdramatic. Then again, many people complained about that movie. It's hard, however, when there aren't many people complaining about a movie and you feel alone.

If "Goonies" is the movie from the 80's, I faintly remember watching it. It was okay, but not something that I felt the urge to watch again.

What's important is YOU - and why you strongly disliked that movie. You need more understanding people in your life to say that it is okay to share what you feel. It is also okay to walk away from a social event (even online) if what they are sharing is triggering. It's also okay to say that you feel hurt by the responses you got, and instead try to explain to them why that social group means a lot to you, but why also that movie wasn't something you felt comfortable with and that you simply wanted to share what you were feeling - without intending on hurting those who disagreed.

It's easier said than done though.

And, there are so many things that can get misunderstood online without seeing physical gestures and emotional expressions from others in person. Some people's worlds aren't that huge to understand, and it's okay to have poor grammar if you are struggling with that or if it's something you tend to do when feeling strong emotions. Communication is hard for many reasons, so no one is perfect. The best we can all do is try to find ways to understand one another, despite our different communication styles, shortcomings, personalities, etc. We all have different styles and personalities, and we all have areas that need improvement.

I'm sorry you went through this.

To answer your question regarding being oversensitive - only you can answer that for you. But the question really could be rephrased in a way to ask yourself why you responded that way to that movie? And to ask for hugs, support, comfort, understanding, and an ear to listen.

I hope you are doing well, and I'm glad you were strong enough to express that here.

Hugs,

Lillib

[sarahsweets]

This person isnt worth your time if not liking the Goonies sets them off. I'd hate to see their reaction once they find out you do not like their favorite ice cream flavor. Seriously, do not let this occupy anymore space in your head.

[mugwort2]

Hi Lillip, Sarahsweets It is really helpful to get your perspectives. TY for being so supportive. I don't mind disagreement as long as the person isn't a disagreeable jerk Its only a movie. I found your replies very helpful in rethinking what happened.

[Discombobulated]

That was a harsh reaction, I am sorry you got that abuse.

I like the Goonies movie but there is no way I would have been so offended by someone saying they didn't. It sounds like they felt threatened by a different opinion.