[splitimage]

I'm in a really untenable room mate situation at the moment.

She has refused to give me the money for May's rent, and she still owes me money for back rent. The other major irritant is she's constantly screaming obscenities at the top of her lungs.

So today I told her I was giving her an eviction notice, for 2 weeks from today. She freaked out and got really aggressive and in my face, and threatened to call the police on me. I told her to go ahead. She said if I gave her an eviction notice she'd just tear it up, I told her I could keep printing them up.

This is really hard for me. I hate conflict and my natural instinct is to smooth things over and back down, but I can't do that this time, and it's causing me major stress.


Please encourage me to not back down.

Thanks.

splitimage

[unaluna]

Im sorry youre in such a scary situation.

[sarahsweets]

That really sucks but if you want to protect yourself I think you should go down to the courthouse and do the eviction as legally as you can. In NJ you have to give 30 days notice but I do not know how it is where you are. With her threats and aggressiveness it will bolster your case if she tried to fight it.

[guilloche]

I'm sorry too, SplitImage. Wishing you lots of strength to do what needs to be done - and hopefully some nice, calm, relaxing time after your roommate is gone. *hugs*

[SlumberKitty]

Wishing you lots of strength.

[eskielover]

Same one you were having rent problems with before? Definitely time to make it legal action whatever that is in Canada. Do they have a legal serving process like they have for court hearings so there is proof? We use registeted mail also. Definitely time to take action

[mugwort2]

Splitimage I wish you strength to get through this okay. Hugs

[healingme4me]

What a scary situation to be in, no wonder you are apprehensive. I don't know the process where you are, but sounds like you need someone of some sort of authority by your side.

[Ford Puma]

Originally Posted by splitimage

I'm in a really untenable room mate situation at the moment.

She has refused to give me the money for May's rent, and she still owes me money for back rent. The other major irritant is she's constantly screaming obscenities at the top of her lungs.

So today I told her I was giving her an eviction notice, for 2 weeks from today. She freaked out and got really aggressive and in my face, and threatened to call the police on me. I told her to go ahead. She said if I gave her an eviction notice she'd just tear it up, I told her I could keep printing them up.

This is really hard for me. I hate conflict and my natural instinct is to smooth things over and back down, but I can't do that this time, and it's causing me major stress.


Please encourage me to not back down.

Thanks.

splitimage

This is a very hard situation you are in I think you need to stay strong as this roommate cannot be allowed to continue treating you like this. As others have said do your best to keep it as legal as you can. try and if possible get help from an expert such as a legal advisor

[Taylor27]

Wishing you lots of strength hugs

[splitimage]

Thanks everyone.


I did get legal advice from a law clinic that helps small landlords. Since we share a kitchen and bathroom, the notice and grounds for eviction are a lot more flexible than in a rental agreement where you're the only tenant on the lease with the landlord.

I gave her notice yesterday, and she didn't flip out on me, she's just being a bit passive / aggressive which I can handle.


Now I just have to wait it out until the 20th.

splitimage

[rechu]

That's good to hear. I hope you can make it through the next 2 weeks without drama.

I recently was very anxious about giving notice to our landlord that we were leaving because I thought the landlord would cause drama. In the end, It all worked out out. I wish the same for you!

[saidso]

Well done! Standing firm with you.

[happysobercrafter]

Omg, what a nightmare for you! I think you are brave to have stood up to her as you have!! Honeybunny, she is in the wrong to put you in that position to take the steps to evict her.

I am grateful you have us and this place for support and encouragement. xoxoxoxox

[splitimage]

Yesterday was particularly drama filled. She started screaming at 5:30 am and continued until 8 am. Then when she got home after work there was more screaming. Then out of the blue she started pounding on my bedroom door. I asked her what the F* was up, and she said to get whoever was in there, out, and telling me to call some guy, who I don't know, to get her money. I told her to calm down, and I'd only talk to her if she stopped screaming.

I finally had enough and called 911. She heard me on the phone and came out demanding to know what was going on, and basically tried to wrestle the phone out of my hands, begging me to hang up. I couldn't talk over her yelling, so I told 911 I'd call back in a couple of minutes. She asked why I'd called them, and I said I was afraid for my safety, and she got really subdued and said I was perfectly safe. I tend to believe her, so I didn't call 911 back, but won't hesitate to do so in the future, if it becomes necessary.

I really don't need this right now.

splitimage

[Fuzzybear]

I’m sending hugs and positive thoughts your way

[Travelinglady]

I'm so sorry you're having to deal with all this drama. You have the law on your side, so remember that, dear one.

[guilloche]

Oh wow... *hugs* that sounds ridiculously stressful. Good for you for calling 911 and handling the situation! I think you handled it well - I don't know that I could have dealt with that.

[eskielover]

Wow.....think the 911 call let her KNOW you will take action against her if it becomes necessary.

Sounds like a spoiled brat kid throwing a tantrum. It sure will be nice to have her out of there

[rechu]

Wow, how stressful. I can see why it was hard to go through with evicting her knowing she could react like that. Hang in there!

[splitimage]

I had my regular appointment with my psychiatrist yesterday and was describing her behaviour, and told him that I thought she was having some kind of psychotic break. He agreed, and explained part of the process, and suggested that I arrange to go before a justice of the peace, and ask that she be committed for evaluation, which would then have the police pick her up, and she'd be held for a minimum of 72 hours for evaluation.


I'm not sure if I'm going to do this or not. Part of me thinks she needs psych help, but I know how angry I'd be if someone did that to me. So I'm going to think about it.

[eskielover]

I think for me IF she pulled that behavior on me again before she leaves that is exactly what I would do. One time even though it looked like it was might have just been the behavior she has learned to get her way....she didn't & now knows that doesn't work with you. Second time if it happens I think it is safe to assume it is more than a behavior issue & acting on it would be totally appropriate.

It would be hard if she is not in the process of acting that way to do anything about it.

She might be angry at having to be evaluated....but that behavior warrants it if it happens again.