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I'm in a really untenable room mate situation at the moment.
She has refused to give me the money for May's rent, and she still owes me money for back rent. The other major irritant is she's constantly screaming obscenities at the top of her lungs. So today I told her I was giving her an eviction notice, for 2 weeks from today. She freaked out and got really aggressive and in my face, and threatened to call the police on me. I told her to go ahead. She said if I gave her an eviction notice she'd just tear it up, I told her I could keep printing them up. This is really hard for me. I hate conflict and my natural instinct is to smooth things over and back down, but I can't do that this time, and it's causing me major stress. Please encourage me to not back down. Thanks. splitimage |
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Im sorry youre in such a scary situation.
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That really sucks but if you want to protect yourself I think you should go down to the courthouse and do the eviction as legally as you can. In NJ you have to give 30 days notice but I do not know how it is where you are. With her threats and aggressiveness it will bolster your case if she tried to fight it.
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I'm sorry too, SplitImage. Wishing you lots of strength to do what needs to be done - and hopefully some nice, calm, relaxing time after your roommate is gone. *hugs*
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Wishing you lots of strength.
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Same one you were having rent problems with before? Definitely time to make it legal action whatever that is in Canada. Do they have a legal serving process like they have for court hearings so there is proof? We use registeted mail also. Definitely time to take action
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Splitimage I wish you strength to get through this okay. Hugs
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What a scary situation to be in, no wonder you are apprehensive. I don't know the process where you are, but sounds like you need someone of some sort of authority by your side.
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This is a very hard situation you are in I think you need to stay strong as this roommate cannot be allowed to continue treating you like this. As others have said do your best to keep it as legal as you can. try and if possible get help from an expert such as a legal advisor __________________ A daily dose of positive in a world going cuckoo Humour helps... |
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Thanks everyone.
I did get legal advice from a law clinic that helps small landlords. Since we share a kitchen and bathroom, the notice and grounds for eviction are a lot more flexible than in a rental agreement where you're the only tenant on the lease with the landlord. I gave her notice yesterday, and she didn't flip out on me, she's just being a bit passive / aggressive which I can handle. Now I just have to wait it out until the 20th. splitimage |
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That's good to hear. I hope you can make it through the next 2 weeks without drama.
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Well done! Standing firm with you.
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Omg, what a nightmare for you! I think you are brave to have stood up to her as you have!! Honeybunny, she is in the wrong to put you in that position to take the steps to evict her.
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Yesterday was particularly drama filled. She started screaming at 5:30 am and continued until 8 am. Then when she got home after work there was more screaming. Then out of the blue she started pounding on my bedroom door. I asked her what the F* was up, and she said to get whoever was in there, out, and telling me to call some guy, who I don't know, to get her money. I told her to calm down, and I'd only talk to her if she stopped screaming.
I finally had enough and called 911. She heard me on the phone and came out demanding to know what was going on, and basically tried to wrestle the phone out of my hands, begging me to hang up. I couldn't talk over her yelling, so I told 911 I'd call back in a couple of minutes. She asked why I'd called them, and I said I was afraid for my safety, and she got really subdued and said I was perfectly safe. I tend to believe her, so I didn't call 911 back, but won't hesitate to do so in the future, if it becomes necessary. I really don't need this right now. splitimage |
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I'm so sorry you're having to deal with all this drama. You have the law on your side, so remember that, dear one.
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Oh wow... *hugs* that sounds ridiculously stressful. Good for you for calling 911 and handling the situation! I think you handled it well - I don't know that I could have dealt with that.
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Wow.....think the 911 call let her KNOW you will take action against her if it becomes necessary.
Sounds like a spoiled brat kid throwing a tantrum. It sure will be nice to have her out of there __________________ Leo's favorite place was in the passenger seat of my truck. We went everywhere together like this. Leo my soulmate will live in my heart FOREVER Nov 1, 2002 - Dec 16, 2018 |
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Wow, how stressful. I can see why it was hard to go through with evicting her knowing she could react like that. Hang in there!
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