[Medusax]

I am done trusting anyone. Today something came to a head, and I feel like a stupid child for getting close to this person. Long story short, they stole from my "Dad", and pulled some other crap. After 54 years of lessons, I'm finally FINI. I will question everyone's motives form now on and ask for proof of everything.

[FluffyPuppy]

Trust has to be earned and is not a given just because of a relationship existing or not existing. I understand your frustration and you should certainly always question things in life but not trusting anyone ever again is a lonely path to walk, say goodbye to any kind of relationship in life, no friends, no family, no babycake. if you do happen to find a rare human that consistently does right by you don't write them off so fast. Sometimes companionship is nice to have but no company is better than bad company as well.

[bpcyclist]

Yes, I won't say I don't trust anyone, but I am very skeptical these days.

[mote.of.soul]

No, you can't just blindly trust people with personal matters until you're convinced they're solid @Medusax. But in saying that, yes, there's some cunning a-holes out there but just don't be seduced. Look for the signs, the red flags, and stick by them. (((hugs)))

[LilyMop]

I’m sorry that happened. It’s definitely a good idea to be cautious. I’ve learned to look for red flags. Maybe you don’t have to write people off immediately but notice the red flags and be careful. I hope everything works out ok with this particular situation.

[Serpentine Leaf]

Just about everybody on this forum must have been here before; I know I have. Trusting those who can't be trusted is a mistake. But so is not trusting a genuinely decent person who really is offering true friendship or love. Betrayal hurts, but so does isolation. We might try to tell ourselves that he only safe way to be is alone, but isolation kills.

[Anonymous42019]

I think all my friends and daughter have had their trust wrecked at some point, including me. I recently got burned whichg was why I took time off the forum so I could have sessions with a therapist and my daughter, a very special youth counsellor.

What I find useful is limiting my time with some, and to build myself up, limit my online time. Another method of rotecting myself is not using any social media, because they are the chief reasons for causing much distress.

I'm sorry this has happened to you, but if you manage to find one person who has and is being consistently helpful and kind to you, then stay with them. We are only human, therefore have faults, but those who are genuine go out of their wy to be accomodating. These people are worth staying with.

Trust is built up over time, but sometimes others fail and we get hurt. Again, this only is human nature, so look out for yourself and if you find that special other, then ask them to look out for you, too.

Trust also is a two-way thing. Try not to lock yourself away, because that can only be detrimental. If you need to vent, take a slow walk somewhere. Whatever the weather, we always return feeling refreshed.

[Medusax]

As far as isolation.....it works for me 90% of the time. There are solid people in my life. Very FEW, but I have them. I'm just not going to bother with anyone new. Too old for this crap. @mote.of.soul--Yes, this one was a cunning a-hole. I HATE those who take advantage of people.....