Hate decorating for the holidays

Does anyone hate decorating for the holidays? I'm one of those people that used to love it as a child but now I hate it because it causes people to stress out and get mad especially if things go wrong. I have nothing but bad memories of constantly getting yelled at because something was exactly right or just in general things weren't working and I was just a target. It doesn't mean I don't like it when other people do it. I think it looks so pretty when other people who enjoys doing it puts theirs up, but I'm just not one to do it myself.

In my opinion, there are more important things that can be done rather than stressing over decorations. It's pointless in my opinion. No one actually has to do it, people just want to do it. This applies for any holiday decorations. For me, once I move out of my parent's house, I have no plans of decorating. If I'm really up for it, maybe I'll get an artificial tree since they are super quick and easy to put up but otherwise, I have no plans on spending large amounts of money on something that is up for only a month or two and then sits in a attic or closet for the rest of the year.

Not to mention that in a lot of cases, they stop working after a few years and need to be replaced. Is anyone else disgusted by the thought of decorating? Just wondered if it brings back bad memories or just simply a general dislike for decorating. Especially since decorating is not necessary even though it looks nice. I believe if you really want to do it, then you can do it, but if not then you shouldn't since it's not actually necessary. Like I said, if other people who genuinely love doing it want to do it, then great.

They usually do a great job of it and it looks fantastic. But for those who get stressed out and mad, I don't think they should do it because there are more important things to be focusing on rather than getting stressed and mad about decorations. If you think about it, it's actually kind of silly, stupid to get mad over stuff like that. People say that they have to decorate. No they don't, they really don't have to. They just want to. No one actually has to decorate. Has anyone known someone that would get super stressed and yell when it came to decorating? I think it's unnecessary and a waste of energy.

It takes the fun out of it. I think that's why I detest decorating myself a lot because ever since I was a kid, there was constant yelling and others getting stressed out, all over decorations. I've seen people, both in my family and even families of friends get into screaming matches until they're red in the face Once I saw my friends mom start freaking out and slamming doors while full blown yelling. For my family, it's constant insults and saying how stupid me or someone else is. And it's all over decorating. To me, something is very wrong there. I always think, what the heck is wrong. So unnecessary.

I think if someone is going to be like that, then it's a waste of time and money. If it wasn't for decorating, there would have not been screaming or people getting stressed and frustrated. If it wasn't for the fact that I still live with my parents, there has been times in the past that when I would get yelled at for no reason, I would have just walked away. But I can't do that yet, although once I move out, I will be able to. Sounds rude but it's stupid to get yelled at over small trivial stuff. I hate getting yelled at just because of decorations.

Sometimes I think people yell to take out their personal issues as well and use decorating as an excuse. They can be focusing on more important things than yelling about decorating. Has anyone else been yelled at constantly when it came to decorating in the past? I honestly think yelling at someone just because they are stressed or something isn't working right takes the fun out of it and makes the whole process miserable and pointless. Due to my past experiences, it's nothing but a pain.

Anytime I hear anyone say they must decorate or that they have to decorate, I just want to say no, you don't have to. No one will judge you for not decorating and if someone actually does judge someone else, then they need to mind their own business. It is a waste of time to do something you think has to be done when there's other things you can do, especially if decorating always results in anger and frustration.

Exactly. It really is a choice, just like a lot of other things in life.

I wish my family would start decorating. I’m hoping today. I’m hoping maybe that will boost my holiday spirts a bit. I’ve been sort of down in the dumps these past 2 Christmases.

I don't hate decorating. I hate having to take the decorations down. It adds to my postholiday blues.

Personally, I believe folks should decorate or not as suits them. It shouldn't have to be an obligation.

I put out my ouside decorations last weekend. I did it for myself. I'm so far out in the boonies the critters and I are the only ones who are going to see them. I haven't decided if I'm going to put stuff up inside. I enjoy looking at them, but the cats enjoying knocking stuff down. Not sure what I'll do.

I hear ya about having other people take the fun out of decorating. I used to be like a kid I'd be so excited about it and looking forward to it. Then my husband took the joy out of it for me. It just became one more stinkin' thing I had to do. Even though it's just me and the fur babies now, I never refound the joy.

Usually I decorate minimally and it makes for easy clean up.

Totally agree.

Oh I’m sorry you’ve been in the dumps lately.

Yeah same here. I used to love it. And I hated taking them down. Yeah I no longer have joy too.

Good idea. That’s what I would do too.

It’s entirely your choice. Even if you live with other people. You are an adult and free to make choices

It's your choice. I choose not to decorate it's just too hard emotionally for me and my husband. Hugs

Yeah I agree. Unfortunately parents can pull the whole, “you don’t pay rent so you need to do what I want” quote. That’s why it can be difficult.

Oh yeah well then its chores. They will be depressed if it is different from what they are used to, or from what they want. And they want you to help because you might be more physically able, and you are right there.

And the kicker, "when you get your own house, you can do whatever you want!" Which is an absolutely horrible thing to say - its more curse than blessing.

You laid out an excellent case for why this is a burden for you. But i feel (from my own experience) that any attempt to start any kind of new tradition that you would enjoy, like one that does not involve yelling, would not be well-received.

But you have understanding and sympathy and empathy here, for what it is worth.

Yeah. It is true that I will have more freedom once I move out but still, i shouldn’t have to deal with it when I’m with them.

Why don’t you pay a bit of rent or even move out and live with a roommate? I thought you have a job?

Yes living with parents could be brutal. I love my parents and they aren’t that bad but I’d rather live with random strangers.

My parents stayed with me once for 3 months due to them being between houses etc and I thought I won’t make it. And it was MY house. They stayed up late which I never do. Made noise. Argued with each other. Ate late at night. And they are messy. My daughter was about 7, and she asked me “mom when are they finally moving out?” lol

If it’s possible I’d start making exit plans.

Why shouldn’t you deal with them when you live with them? If my daughter lived at home, I’d expect her to deal with how I run things.

The British documentary series 7-Up, which followed a group of kids every 7 years from age 7 to 63 (latest instalment this year), established that who kids are at 7, shows who they will be when they grow up. Your daughter was smart even then!

I have a job but only part time and not enough money to move out. I do plan on moving though. I am definitely not staying.

I mean with how they act when it comes to doing that stuff. No one should have to deal with yelling for no reason.

Yep I agree.