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Default Nov 14, 2020 at 04:39 PM
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After doing some leg-work, I got final approval from next-of-kin for release of an edited version of her Obituary:




Tamera "Tamster", age 58, died on Monday, September 21, 2020, at Flower Hospital in Ohio, surrounded by her loving family.

Tammy was born on November 29, 1961, in Adrian to Gilbert and Nancy. She graduated from Morenci High School and went on to
obtain her bachelor’s degree. Tammy worked as a respiratory therapist at Allegiance Hospital
and then with ProMedica. She loved spending time with her family and her grandchildren were her pride and joy.

She is survived by her only daughter, Danielle (Tyler); grandchildren, Trent, Chase, Jax and Mia; siblings, Gilbert, Amy, Jamie, Jake, Amy
and Chris; and step-mother, Sue. Tammy was preceded in death by her father, Gilbert, and mother and stepfather, Nancy and George.

At Tammy’s request, cremation will take place
and a memorial service will be held at a later date.



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Although it has not been expressed by her daughter Danielle, I think, it would be appreciated to not seek them out on social media or other means of communication.



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Default Nov 23, 2020 at 06:52 AM
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Oh my word, I'm so saddened to see this. I enjoyed working with Tamster while I was on the team and she was amazing.

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Default Dec 05, 2020 at 11:46 AM
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Best of wishes to him even though its too late, i hope he is in a better place.
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Best of wishes to him even though its too late, i hope he is in a better place.
Thanks, Pryce. Tams was female but all of us who were close with her thank you for your condolences.

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I missed Tamster
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Default Dec 18, 2020 at 06:04 PM
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After doing some leg-work, I got final approval from next-of-kin for release of an edited version of her Obituary:




Tamera "Tamster", age 58, died on Monday, September 21, 2020, at Flower Hospital in Ohio, surrounded by her loving family.

Tammy was born on November 29, 1961, in Adrian to Gilbert and Nancy. She graduated from Morenci High School and went on to
obtain her bachelor’s degree. Tammy worked as a respiratory therapist at Allegiance Hospital
and then with ProMedica. She loved spending time with her family and her grandchildren were her pride and joy.

She is survived by her only daughter, Danielle (Tyler); grandchildren, Trent, Chase, Jax and Mia; siblings, Gilbert, Amy, Jamie, Jake, Amy
and Chris; and step-mother, Sue. Tammy was preceded in death by her father, Gilbert, and mother and stepfather, Nancy and George.

At Tammy’s request, cremation will take place
and a memorial service will be held at a later date.



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Although it has not been expressed by her daughter Danielle, I think, it would be appreciated to not seek them out on social media or other means of communication.



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Default Jan 06, 2021 at 10:40 AM
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This is a song for your next journey Tams. I'm so sorry. xx Peace always be unto you.

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I am so so sorry. My deepest condolences for your loss <3

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I missed Tamster adviced
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Well I do believe for the first time in a long time...I am speechless. I new Tam. We were no close but we chatted a lot over the years. It will certainly be...different without her in chat anymore. She was always kind to everyone...or at least tried to be....some people just would not allow you to be nice to them. May she rest in peace. I will remember her in my nightly ritual where I talk to an invisible man in the sky or another dimension and ask him to look after her. She was good people. I know everyone who knew her is feeling her loss and i am truly sorry, I know grief is hard. And I know a thing or two about getting through it. MY sympathies to all her closest friends here. Jill Shaw
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Default Jan 26, 2021 at 05:28 PM
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Good evening (Central Europe)!

It is my sad duty, as her only link to this community here, to inform you that our well known User Tamster has passed away this afternooon in the hospital.

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I didn't know her, I never really go on chat, but the name does sound familiar. Pretty sure she may have commented on some of my threads before. I'm sorry to hear that, that is sad. Do you know what happened?
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Default Jan 31, 2021 at 06:51 PM
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I am just seeing this now. I know she had health conditions and some from medications. I just hope she did not die because she lost her battle with mental health issues. I have chatted with her many times over the years i have been here. I am so sad now that she lost her battle with this life yet I still fight the good fight. I am only 4 years younger than her.

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I believe it was a physical condition in her lungs that took her, not her mental illness. I hope that gives you some comfort.
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Default Feb 02, 2021 at 10:55 PM
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I've not beed here for a while, butI knew Tams for many years in chat & even talked to her on the telephone a few times. Needless to say, it's a shock to read of her death. She lived in the same state I live in, and I'm even familiar with the town where she lived with her animals, and later with her daughter (she lived near my old family homestead). She greatly enjoyed her grandkids; I'm sure they miss her dearly. It's too bad she had to struggle with so many physical and mental challenges. I'm not a believer, but I hope she's at peace wherever she is now. Catch you on the flipside, Tamster.
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I believe it was a physical condition in her lungs that took her, not her mental illness. I hope that gives you some comfort.
Thank you Down for letting me know.
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I keep forgetting that Tamster isn’t here when I go to ask her for some advice.
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I missed Tam advice.
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Noooo not Tam! I remember her from way back. Rest in peace User Tamster passed away

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As things start to open up from the pandemic and I get back to some of my regular activities that I didn't do all year, I realize how much I miss Tamster and what a whole her death has created in my life. I really miss all my phone conversations with her. I used to talk to her all the time, and I wish she was around so I could talk to her about all the new things happening. So much has changed in my life. And she was always so supportive - just a wonderful friend and cheerleader. Even a mentor in so many ways.

It's just hard because I felt so close to her, but never got to meet her in person. I wish I could have gone to her funeral or told her family what she meant to me. But I know that it would be an intrusion on their life. I also know that their experience of her may be different than mine, and I don't want to intrude upon their own grief and mourning.

I wish I could think of something to do to honor her rightly that would help me with my grief. I'm not quite sure what though.

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