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rdgrad15
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I think the old adage ,that you learn from your past and learn from your life experiences. Otherwise imo. you will get stuck in that exact question and go back & forth This is just from my own hard life s..t. I think part of it is the very hard at times to declaw from those negative of the past. Which can take some time and therapy. People always tell mee and I naturally am not inclined. That I am not running a sprint but more like a marathon or as I like to think A nice long bike ride that is clearing my head , both figuratively and in reality.
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I need to accept my past and realize I was doing what I could at the time with the skills and knowledge I had. It’s still hard and I try not to ruminate on it. I’m also trying now not to make the same mistakes. Mainly I’m trying to be more assertive and change situations so they don’t end up the same way they did before.
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I live in the past way too much. I loved raising my sons. We had quite a unique family, and I love remembering those times. I worry the heck out of my kids now, trying to get them to remember different things that happened in our lives that they just don't recall. They are busy raising families and are happy with that.
I definitely haven't let go of the past. I have learned a lot from the past as well-I know terrible mistakes I've made, but not letting go of my children and moving on is something I haven't managed to do. I'm woring on it. They still love me, and we still have a great relationship. I miss their childhood though. We were all so special, I can't believe they don't remember it. |
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rdgrad15
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I think you're living in the past if you're stuck there and on a mental loop. If you can shift focus pretty easily, you're not living in the past.
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Yep I agree. That makes sense. We all dwell on the past at some point, but it's when your stuck in a loop that it becomes a real problem. And even more so when depression or other mental illnesses are brought into play.
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