The Concept of Depressive Realism

rdgrad15 · May 31, 2021 at 05:49 PM

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Originally Posted by Mendingmysoul

I wonder if the realism itself makes a person sad.I have gone through very bad experiences in the hands of people who are supposed to be protecting me.That changed the way or I would like to say,those experiences made me very realistic.Then this realism about people ,incidents and experiences, specially when I am right about them,brings dysphoria or sadness.If I were in denial or in naive optimism ( They abused me because they loved me ) ,I don't know if I would be a happy person now.

I’m sorry you went through thar. Also I agree that the realism can make you sad. Happens to me too. Just because I find out the truth about something or someone doesn't mean I’m happy. Usually quite the opposite, sad and disappointed that it has to be a certain way and to know that most people may not be as genuine as you once thought only makes it worse.

rdgrad15 · May 31, 2021 at 05:50 PM

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Originally Posted by downandlonely

That's interesting Mending. We certainly don't want to stay in unhealthy relationships with people who aren't treating us well.

Yep exactly we don’t.

rdgrad15 · May 31, 2021 at 05:51 PM

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Originally Posted by eskielover

For me it doesn't make me sad. I see the way it is & accept that is what I am dealing with & get on with my life then KNOWING what I need to deal with, resolve, or let it go completely

Yeah makes sense.