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Why are people so easily offended, something simple like reply response time lol??
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It depends. Many reasons or no reasons at all.
Some people have higher sensitivities than others just because how they are, some have very thin skin, some had a cushy life where they don’t have to toughen up so they can afford to be all offended, some never worked or never worked challenging jobs in challenging environments so they never had to toughen up, some lack life experience and understanding of how the world operates, some are naive, some are self absorbed and expect the world to coddle them, some have disorders and mental health health challenges that understandably make them very sensitive, some are spoiled, some just have different personalities, some lack critical thinking and take everything personal, some think too highly of themselves and they are rude people themselves yet are “fake” offended, some became sensitive because they were treated poorly and abused in childhood etc etc etc Why do these people think you are rude? Could you specify if possible? |
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My thoughts from your post are that I imagine someone emailed or texted you and then got mad when you didn’t reply soon enough to meet their expectation. My take on that is that people have adopted this unofficial text etiquette expectations where if you don’t immediately respond they get offended. Was this the case for you? For me, if I am able to text right back I will, if I want to take more time or not reply at all, I won’t. Too bad if that offends them (unless it’s business, then I have to meet certain expectations).
@divine1966 You really summed it all up there, too, regarding human behavior in general. I like how you say they can afford to be offended. That’s so true, honestly. Sometimes one is offended but cannot afford to show it because they are in no position to be able to. __________________ "And don't say it hasn't been a little slice of heaven, 'cause it hasn't!" . About Me--T |
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I’ve met people who expect others to immediately reply which is unreasonable and ridiculous. If one is at work all day and might not be allowed or be around the phone, then commute long time, they might only have few hours in the evening when they have to attend to their families and other business, they can’t possibly reply to everyone’s personal message/text/email same day. Frankly some people don’t understand that others don’t have leisure relaxed life style and cannot sit around messaging people.
We had couple of threads on this topic before (not about therapists and such not replying immediately but some other random people). Not realistic at all |
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I've had this issue and found that there are highly sensitive people who may be hurt by things that would not bother me. Sometimes that is difficult for me to understand.
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Frankly, I am amazed at the things people get offended about, but I think it might be a generational thing. The world today isn't even remotely like the one I grew up in. I was born in '62.
I am incredibly impressed by the Native nations. As bad as they were persecuted by the US government, the few survivors put their energy into rebuilding their lives, but granted, different than before. They are a powerful people who honor their traditions. I love going to their Pow-Wows. The clothes are stunningly colorful, the dancing competitions are fascinating to watch, and the drums are mesmerizing. I love that I can open my window and go to sleep to the sound of those drums. I once happened upon the artist who sculpted the Native American statue that stands on top of the Oklahoma Capital building which happens to be just a few miles from my house. He was also a former Souix Chief. Fascinating man. I can't pronounce nor spell his name, though. Google him. I guess my point is, there are people out there who have every right to be offended, and I'm sure they probably are. You would never know it though. I'm not sure if that's a good thing or a bad thing. Frankly, I say live and let live. That's the hippy in me talking. Why should I have to change the way I speak, act, etc. because you're upset? That makes me upset. 😁 If you don't like what I say or do, go someplace else where I'm not if it really bothers you that much or even ask me to leave if you can't and if I can, I will. I don't see a problem with living in a society where people are allowed to speak without restraint. I used to live in a society like that, but I see it moving closer and closer to an Orwellian one. Terrifying. __________________ You're only given one little spark of madness. You mustn't lose it. ~ Robin Williams Did you exchange a walk on part in the war for a lead role in a cage? ~ Pink Floyd |
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Sometimes it’s just a highly developed sense of instant gratification. They expect the whole world to be at their beck and call. They are the center of the universe didn’t cha know that! And boy you’d better respond snappy or they’ll get pissed.
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Live and let live is a good one. I once got yelled at because I said my family lost everyone in the Holocaust (my grandparents survived but lost everyone else like my grandpa had 7 sister and they all had young children and none survived none survived) yet they went on with their lives and enjoyed it. I got yelled at that not everyone can move on. All right then. You go mope around that someone didn’t respond to your text! Or didn’t look at you the right away I know siblings with Usher syndrome, progressively becoming deaf and blind. But ok let’s act like victims and mope about unreturned texts instead of putting things into perspective |
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Sometimes people are rude because they are jealous of you and instead of bettering their own situation such as removing themselves from that platform for awhile, or just being the same or more successful then you are, they get jealous of you and start becoming assholes.
Also some people are just thin skinned babies who can’t handle it when people are rude. They just stop responding instead of saying stuff back. It may not even have anything to do with you but be between two completely different people and they just take sides and ignore you. __________________ Ridin' with Biden |
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All I can say is “first world problems “.
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