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Default Dec 16, 2021 at 10:02 AM
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One of the biggest peeves: When people ask a question, but do not listen to the answer. So, WHY did you ask me in the first place? So you can passively/aggressively completely IGNORE what I have to say?? Or, worse yet, interrupt me with another question?

Along the same lines: When someone asks for advice, but then patently refuses any suggestions you might offer. That's always a head shaker.
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I find that most people don't want your honest advice. They just want you to agree with their decision.
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I find that most people don't want your honest advice. They just want you to agree with their decision.
And on a related note, I HATE UNSOLICITED ADVICE. It is NOT supportive and it's presumptuous, esp. when this person doesn't even know me or anything about my life.

Yet I've found people love to give advice, whether you want it or not. I know someone who LIKES to receive advice, and as a result she assumes everyone else does. Hence, she's always telling me and others "You should_______" and "Why don't you______?"

Because of this, I've stopped confiding in her. It's not safe. And now that I've learned the definition of a "Karen", I realized she has some of those traits.

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Default Dec 17, 2021 at 12:07 PM
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When people are late. My mother is notoriously late. ALWAYS. I invited her to an outdoor event this summer. I told her to arrive by 1 45 so we could get seats before the event started at 2. At 2 20, she arrived and was surprised the ceremony was already over. It was my son's college graduation.
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When people are late. My mother is notoriously late. ALWAYS. I invited her to an outdoor event this summer. I told her to arrive by 1 45 so we could get seats before the event started at 2. At 2 20, she arrived and was surprised the ceremony was already over. It was my son's college graduation.
My former therapist was almost always late. And my former hairdresser. In the latter, I eventually stopped going to her for that reason even though she did great work.

In the former, I didn't stop because everything else worked so well. I really clicked with her and felt really comfortable with her otherwise. At least she apologized everytime (though it rang hollow after repeated lateness), but my former hairdresser never did that.

Or she'd forget about our appointment altogether. (Hairdresser, not therapist)

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And on a related note, I HATE UNSOLICITED ADVICE. It is NOT supportive and it's presumptuous, esp. when this person doesn't even know me or anything about my life.(
I feel that this is a pet peeve that is also an innocent one. A lot of people give advice because they believe they are offering support and help or even as a way to offer friendship rather than from a judgmental stance. There are people who do it in a mean way, but I think for the most part it comes from the heart.

I'm a person who likes to chime in on my own experiences or how I've dealt with situations, but like you I've learned that not everyone appreciates it. So usually, if I give advice, it's because they ask for it.
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My former therapist was almost always late. And my former hairdresser. In the latter, I eventually stopped going to her for that reason even though she did great work.

In the former, I didn't stop because everything else worked so well. I really clicked with her and felt really comfortable with her otherwise. At least she apologized everytime (though it rang hollow after repeated lateness), but my former hairdresser never did that.

Or she'd forget about our appointment altogether. (Hairdresser, not therapist)
A couple of times this year I have been seeing an Oncologist for brief counseling. He's very nice but he shows up about 45 minutes after my set time appointment. It's such a long wait in the little office, which I get claustrophobic. On top of that I have to pay for parking!

Next time seeing him I'll have the counseling over the phone. Oh and by the way, things are fine with me now in case if you're wondering why I'm seeing an Oncologist.
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A pet peeve that I have is when I'm grocery shopping and the store doesn't have the items that I want and need. I could get something else but it wouldn't be as good as the very item I want.
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A couple of times this year I have been seeing an Oncologist for brief counseling. He's very nice but he shows up about 45 minutes after my set time appointment. It's such a long wait in the little office, which I get claustrophobic. On top of that I have to pay for parking!

Next time seeing him I'll have the counseling over the phone. Oh and by the way, things are fine with me now in case if you're wondering why I'm seeing an Oncologist.
I used to go to an eye doctor who was ALWAYS at least that late! And that added to my parking fees! Waiting for an hour, that's a fee already.

That was years ago. They stopped charging for parking since then for some time and then I also changed doctors. It's not just cause of the lateness and not even an apology or explanation.

He always acted like it was the first time he was seeing me. And I had been going to him for DECADES. When this COVID crap happened, I changed doctors. Things are "cold" and "distant" enough as it is out there, with all our divisiveness! And being labeled "non-essential". I didn't want to continue to go to someone where I feel invisible or I don't matter.

The lack of bedside manner got to me finally, esp. after years and years and years. I had it.

I'm also claustrophobic, and I felt like that in the observation room after my third COVID shot. They had us in this room which felt too close to me. I couldn't wait to get out of there.

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One of my all time biggest pet peeves is inaccurate clocks. I wish all clocks were atomic clocks.
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One of my all time biggest pet peeves is inaccurate clocks. I wish all clocks were atomic clocks.
I have one radio controlled or atomic clock. I use that one to set all my other clocks, as I want the precise time on all of them. And I want all of them to be in sync, not even a few seconds off!

I'm old enough to remember the Time Lady. You called this number to get the exact time. As a kid I found it fascinating. I thought it was a live person on the phone all the time and I didn't know how she did it.

If the clock is off in a parking structure and they round up to the nearest 1/4 hour, you end up paying more.

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On the subject of clocks....

My microwave clock annoys me. Why does it gain every time I use the microwave?

Once every two weeks I have to reset it as by then, it can be as much as 8/9 minutes fast
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I find a lot of doctors seem dismissive of my concerns and think I'm a hypochondriac. Although they may have a point. I think I've had at least 7 Covid tests, all negative.
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On the subject of clocks....

My microwave clock annoys me. Why does it gain every time I use the microwave?

Once every two weeks I have to reset it as by then, it can be as much as 8/9 minutes fast
Some of my clocks do that, like this old clock radio I have. After awhile it ends up being as much as 10-15 minutes too fast. The clock on one TV is the opposite, it loses time after awhile and I have to reset it.

Also I don't know why so many things need clocks on them. I know what time it is. On the opposite end, there's an acquaintance with NO CLOCKS at all in the house except for the display on the stove.

I'd need at least a few clocks.

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My pet peeves, anyone who is intolerant or racist, people who don't use their brain rate too.

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Why I’m the only person that seems to notice when things are amiss in this crap building. Nobody else notices the light is out in the laundry room or there’s a puddle in the lobby which someone could slip on?

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People who instead of taking responsibility of improving their own lives just complain or blame others
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Yeah but my atomic clock is often several weeks late.
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Losing a mate to a pair of socks when I KNOW it was in the washer. And I made sure I got everything out.

Yet it "disappeared". Of course that can't happen and nobody would take one sock. And this happened on a favorite pair too.

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People above me acting like their floor is NOT MY CEILING.

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I read on facebook today that the sock transforms to a tupperware lid that you wont have a matching container for!
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