A lesson i'm learning

07:06 PM

I think others might find this useful and helpful as well

I was thinking earlier and i realised that the reason I adopted Willow is cause she did something Ebony used to do, when Willow first met me, she came over to smell me then the Ebony-thing she did was wrap her tail round my leg, which is something Ebony did

Its something i only knew Ebony and Willow to do, the way she did it

I think in a way i was trying to "find" Ebony again, although i know i will never see her again, unless the rainbow bridge poem is right

The lesson for others: Nobody and no pet is the same as another person or pet, if you look for someone or some pet exactly the same as the person or pet you lost, you won't find what you are looking for and it will just hurt everyone all over again, cause you'll be constantly comparing the lost person or pet, with the current person or pet.

CANDC · Jul 30, 2022 at 07:26 PM

@willowtigger that is a very moving story. Sounds like your "kids" mean a lot to you. Thanks for sharing the story.

Jul 30, 2022 at 07:33 PM

Don't get me wrong, I do love Willow, I'm just thinking trying to "find" Ebony, the same year she took her last breath in my arms at the vet, maybe wasn't the smartest thing I could of done

downandlonely · Jul 30, 2022 at 07:40 PM

That does sound right. We can't really replace a lost pet.

eskielover · Jul 31, 2022 at 09:41 PM

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Originally Posted by willowtigger

Don't get me wrong, I do love Willow, I'm just thinking trying to "find" Ebony, the same year she took her last breath in my arms at the vet, maybe wasn't the smartest thing I could of done

I lost my soulmate doggie Leo & 6 months later this little 4 month old kitten showed up on my farm. What surprised me is that the little kitten would (& still does) intentionally step on my foot exactly like Leo always did & he would get in my face in the morning just as I was waking up just like Leo. I didn't even want a cat when the kitten showed up but I could sense a definite connection from that beginning & now he is a little cat soulmate. Not exactly like Leo but what a personality & connection of his own I have with him. I never thought I would find that kind of connection again. I never look for the same but I do love when I have a special connection that is beyond normal

Aug 01, 2022 at 08:04 AM

I know Willow is not Ebony come back to me, cause she was already 4 when she came to me (well, 3 and a half cause it was the winter)

which means she is 7 now, the same age that Ebony was if the rescue had got her age right, when she took her final breath, we'll never know if Ebony was older than that though

idk if i'm making sense i cant get my head around which year it actually is just now

Breaking Dawn · Aug 01, 2022 at 08:44 AM

I'm thinking of pets I've had.

eskielover · Aug 01, 2022 at 04:49 PM

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Originally Posted by willowtigger

I know Willow is not Ebony come back to me, cause she was already 4 when she came to me (well, 3 and a half cause it was the winter)

which means she is 7 now, the same age that Ebony was if the rescue had got her age right, when she took her final breath, we'll never know if Ebony was older than that though

idk if i'm making sense i cant get my head around which year it actually is just now

I don't believe in reincarnation. I believe that each creature (pet or even my wild raccoons or butterflies) are themselves & have their own purpose in their lives. Some to specially touch us & some to just live their lives in the wild. It is just extra special when one touches our lives that have a special bond & connection with us

downandlonely · Aug 01, 2022 at 06:17 PM

I don't believe in reincarnation either.

Aug 01, 2022 at 06:37 PM

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Originally Posted by eskielover

I don't believe in reincarnation. I believe that each creature (pet or even my wild raccoons or butterflies) are themselves & have their own purpose in their lives. Some to specially touch us & some to just live their lives in the wild. It is just extra special when one touches our lives that have a special bond & connection with us

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Originally Posted by downandlonely

I don't believe in reincarnation either.

I do believe in reincarnation, it makes more sense than heaven and hell, imo

Energy cannot be destroyed (so scientists have said), so if it doesnt get reincarnationed, what happens to it?

downandlonely · Aug 01, 2022 at 06:42 PM

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Originally Posted by willowtigger

I do believe in reincarnation, it makes more sense than heaven and hell, imo

Energy cannot be destroyed (so scientists have said), so if it doesnt get reincarnationed, what happens to it?

Won't get into a religious debate here. We all have our own beliefs.

eskielover · Aug 01, 2022 at 07:05 PM

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Originally Posted by willowtigger

I do believe in reincarnation, it makes more sense than heaven and hell, imo

Energy cannot be destroyed (so scientists have said), so if it doesnt get reincarnationed, what happens to it?

Agree with downandlonely. This is a religious belief discussion & these forums are not the place to debate or discuss religious beliefs

MuseumGhost · Aug 08, 2022 at 12:02 PM

I agree, you can't try to "find" your pet who has passed on in another animal. But going out (when you're ready), and rescuing an other fur baby who is in need of love and affection and care is a great, healing thing. They need us so much. A friend convinced me of this, and she was absolutely right.

I thought it would hurt too much. I thought I'd be a blubbering, dithering mess in the rescue center. It did take me a few trips back and forth, before I settled on a lovely black kitten who kept trying to get my attention from her cage. She had been slated for euthanasia later on that 3rd day, as she was struggling with a "kennel cold". All I had to do was lay out $5 for a prescription, and keep her fed and watered and warm, and the infection only took a week to completely clear up.

She subsequently became one of the greatest cats I've ever had the privilege to know.

Letting a new little sweetie into your life can be one of the greatest things you'll ever do. And the rewards are huge.

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CANDC Super Moderator Community Support Team Community Liaison Chat Leader Member Since May 2014 Location: Northeast USA New England Posts: 17,387 (SuperPoster!) 9 2,308 hugs given	Jul 30, 2022 at 07:26 PM #2 @willowtigger that is a very moving story. Sounds like your "kids" mean a lot to you. Thanks for sharing the story. __________________ Super Moderator Community Support Team "Things Take Time"
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Anonymous32448 Guest Posts: n/a	Jul 30, 2022 at 07:33 PM #3 Don't get me wrong, I do love Willow, I'm just thinking trying to "find" Ebony, the same year she took her last breath in my arms at the vet, maybe wasn't the smartest thing I could of done
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downandlonely Legendary Member Since Mar 2018 Location: United States Posts: 10,760 (SuperPoster!) 6 10.6k hugs given	Jul 30, 2022 at 07:40 PM #4 That does sound right. We can't really replace a lost pet.
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Breaking Dawn Legendary Member Since Sep 2019 Location: USA Posts: 16,689 (SuperPoster!) 4 42.2k hugs given	Aug 01, 2022 at 08:44 AM #7 I'm thinking of pets I've had. __________________ "Every moment is a fresh beginning." (T. S. Eliot) "Problems are not stop signs, they are guidelines."(Robert H. Schiuller) * * * * * *
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downandlonely Legendary Member Since Mar 2018 Location: United States Posts: 10,760 (SuperPoster!) 6 10.6k hugs given	Aug 01, 2022 at 06:17 PM #9 I don't believe in reincarnation either.
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