Am I crazy?

So today I decided to make an account on Meetup. I also found a group with a fun event not very far from me, and I signed up for it. Has anyone had any experience with Meetup? Is it really ok for just meeting friends? There’s over a dozen people attending this public event, and over half of them are ladies, so I think the husband shouldn’t be mad if I tell him that. But I don’t even know how to begin to tell him any of this. I have no intention to cheat on him by doing this, but also he’s an addict causing me emotional pain and I just want to actually live a life that makes me feel good about myself. Besides, I literally met him through Twitter through local friends with a common interest, and met him at a bar..so why should this be any more intimidating for me?

I don’t know what I would have to offer a social group in terms of socializing…Call it my poor self esteem I suppose. I can do ok talking about other things but when it comes to my life I don’t feel like there’s anything interesting to say. And the people attending all have some Meetup experience so I would surely be the newbie. Anyway I have a few days to either psych myself up to go to this event alone or cancel and sulk at home.

No you aren’t crazy. It’s not like you use dating site or signed for meetup focused on dating.

I use meetups and have met ton of nice people and made good friends. There are always people who are just as new as you. Or even newer. I’d not worry about talking about your life. You can keep conversations neutral.

I don’t believe being attached to the hip. It’s important to spend lots of quality time together with your spouse, but balance it with time spent with friends and doing hobbies erc If your husband has issues with it, it’s his problem, not yours.

Having said that, groups I belong to are all women. It’s just what I prefer for social times. I have no interest in seeking male friendships. There are tons of all women groups by me. I also pursue hobbies that take me out of the house with groups, but those again are all women

I've wanted to look into that, but I'm my wife's only caregiver, and I feel too much guilt getting away. Plus I'm so very exhausted that I'd rather just sleep or chillax.

I think there are groups that gather for a purpose, such as (and this is just an example) foraging for wild mushrooms. In these meetups, the social aspect isn't emphasized.

I'd say, "Go for it." When explaining to your husband, describe it as a meeting with a purpose rather than a social event so it might seem less fun / threatening.

Good point. There are also volunteer groups that are linked to meetup.

I've gone to quite a few meetup groups, enjoyed them, and met some nice people. The thing I like about meetup is pretty much everyone who goes to the events is trying to meet new people so people are pretty open. I also like events where there's an activity as the focus as it gives you a natural topic of conversation.

I think it's great that you are thinking about taking this step.

I think it's a great idea. I was part of the Star Trek Meetup Group in NYC. I had a lot of fun going. People join Meetup to find cool things to do with other people in their area and I really think it would be a fun experience. Meetups aren't for hookups essentially, so there should be no problem for the husband.