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Feb 05, 2009, 04:59 PM
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Ok...Don't know if I have made a big mistake but....I have posted 3 profiles on different dating sites.
I have done this before only to be majorly disappointed. The men only wanted to be special friends. Any tips? Advice? Suggestions? Comments? |
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Feb 05, 2009, 05:46 PM
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Hi Zen. You know I have 3 friends who are now married to someone they met online! I haven't done it myself, but my advice is to be a bit mysterious at the start ... us guys love mystery!
 Also, there are loads of people out there who are just messing around, so guard your heart and let friendship develop before you allow romantic feelings to grow. Maybe easier said than done!  Good luck! Keep me posted, let me know if there's any news, us Irish love to hear all the gossip! lol
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Feb 05, 2009, 06:18 PM
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I have Irish heritage!! I will keep you posted and if you think of any useful tips on how to weed out the weirdos please tell me!
Cheers! Zen888
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Feb 05, 2009, 06:55 PM
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(((((((((((( zen ))))))))))))))))
I have never tried internet dating myself but I know others who have. The only advice I have is to really get to know the person through email and phone conversations before meeting and once you meet be sure to take it slow. The people I know had good luck but those are the things that they did and it seemed to work for them. 
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#5
Feb 05, 2009, 07:05 PM
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I'm a guy and I have had bad experiences on on line dating. All I get is responses from chat line operators. Heck call it what it is XXX phone lines. Craig's List was the worst of them.
Guys will lie on line about themselves because they can. Very seldom that people are authentic. I have known of several women that were stalked. It appears that most men looking are already married. There has to be better places and ways to find someone than dating lines. I can go to an airport or department store and have a lunch rdinner date in a hour. Why pay for meeting people on the other side of the country? According to what I was told in free trial offers, the dating sites have more women than men using them. I think you ladies could find more productive ways to obtain dates. While I make a good date, I am not in it for sex or a romantic relationship, at the start. And that is where the dating sites have it wrong. Presenting an ideal mate prior to even meeting. It just isn't going to happen. Last edited by FerretGuy5; Feb 05, 2009 at 07:22 PM. |
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Feb 05, 2009, 11:29 PM
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just be careful... remember that online you REALLy can't tell as much as you think about a person
it's possible to be a good thing though, jsut be real careful
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Feb 06, 2009, 01:15 AM
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i know someone who got married a couple months ago to someone he met online. they seem like a good match... they used a faith-based site and found each other locally.
seems like, if you and the person you're looking at are actually honest, you could get a better first look at each other than in person. but that's coming from me, who flounders horribly in person but is quite expressive online. it all depends, i'm sure.
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Feb 06, 2009, 01:21 AM
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jme - i got lucky this way - i found it a better way than hitting the bars and meeting people who weren't interested in me but my body only.
we've been dating for 2 years in july, live together now and things are okay-ish. i did briefly date a couple of others too, but the chemistries just didn't match. i can't say i have met any creeps - anyone who has sounded creepy online, or anyone who i have thought i wouldn't click with, i have decided to not to meet in real life. good luck zen twilight
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Feb 06, 2009, 12:10 PM
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Once you connect with someone and exchange e-mail and/or IM & phone numbers how long do you wait to meet them in person? What are a list of things to watch out for in profiles, IM msgs on sites, ...etc. Should I post my photo on my profile for everyone to view?
I've been told I am cute. I know I am not a total babe...etc. Any interesting things I should write in my profiles to catch their attention? I'm confused and second guessing this whole Internet dating thing! 
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Feb 06, 2009, 12:29 PM
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Ok...I did it! I posted my real photo on a dating site! Scared!
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Feb 06, 2009, 10:57 PM
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What are some going "opening lines" (phrases) for my profile? FYI I'm female.
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Feb 07, 2009, 12:28 AM
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Dear Zen,
I agree with all the things that others have said. Get to know them really well via the chatroom/email phone. The weirdos pretty much stand out from the word go. Also, once you do get to know some-one well and like them, organize to have a coffee and let them know you will be bringing a friend with you. If they are serious too they wont mind. Good Luck Possum |
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Feb 07, 2009, 01:41 PM
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zen - i think the best opening line would be messaging someone you are interested in.
just saying "hey, your profile caught my eye, i really liked x/i can relate to y, want to talk?" etc should get a response.be safe and good luck!! it is needed in these kind of things twilight
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Feb 08, 2009, 08:57 PM
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What about online live chatsites?
I use one myself (just for chatting, socialising,as I am socially avoidant lol) but I still get afeeling for the people on there after about 6 hours of intense one 2 one chat. I always have the same policy, be honest, open, don't play games, but that's me. It's not always good to let your shields down lol. Anyway the good thing about the online chat sites is that you can watch for hours to see how people behave and see their consistency. Who they greet, what their attitude is like, are they pervy lol.. blah blah. Give it a couple of months and you might find someone. I reckon it is possible if you are patient but you have to remember that they may not be as mentally tough as a person who is "out there". Anyway, only my opinion. I wish you good luck. |
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Feb 08, 2009, 09:33 PM
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Good luck!
My fiance and I met online. We met on a website that had nothing to do with dating, just mutual interest for the subject. We became good friends and then we let each other know about feelings....the rest is history! LOL There are going to be lots of people to meet, just be very careful! Try to find a site or subject you are interested in and start there. At least you know they are going to have mutual interests!
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Feb 08, 2009, 09:37 PM
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Onlymedid!
That makes good sense. Nice one. I hope you continue to have happy times...... |
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