[TishaBuv]

I’m sad and anxious about my upcoming appointment with my psychiatrist.

I’ve been taking everything as prescribed, but nothing has helped me enough with my interpersonal issues.

When I tell him this, I know he will dismiss me from his care. Then I am on my own once again.

The psychologist hasn’t helped either.

It’s all just been more waste of time and money.

[Yaowen]

Dear TishaBuv,

I am so very, very sorry that the things you've tried have not been effective. That is really heartbreaking. Wish I knew what to say that would help.

[TishaBuv]

My appointment is today and I’m not sure what I should tell him. I had to do whatever actions made the relationships go better. Was I able to do this because I am on meds that gave me the ability to do that? If I tell him I think the meds may be working just the little bit that I may need, he’ll probably still dismiss me anyway.

[TrueBeliver]

So sorry to hear about your experience. I actually have an appointment with my psych. today and I am going through a similar situation. The status quo (75 mg of Effexor and 1mg of Rexulti) is just not working for me. I am really interested in exploring the idea of being on no medications at all, but I am worried about how my psych is going to react to that.

[SlumberKitty]

How did the appointment go @TishaBuv?

[TishaBuv]

Originally Posted by SlumberKitty

How did the appointment go @TishaBuv?

I told him the meds are working a little more, because I knew he would ‘fire’ me, if I didn’t say so. He actually said, “I was going to fire you, but won’t since they are working.” They are working a little in the respect that I still have the same triggers, but I am more able to lift myself up sooner and I am always the one to lift others- they will not do that for me... most of them.

I originally thought and have been struggling with if the nature of my emotional reactions are simply interpersonal, or is there something biologically wrong with me.

I’ve seen so many others here speak about their disorders as though they are just that, and separate from their relationships with other people who are extremely difficult people.

I don’t feel like I have an emotional disorder and that I would react this way with any people in any situation. Also, my other friends and situations past and present did not trigger any emotional issues.

For those who want to go off meds, I’ve gone back and forth with it. Right now, I weigh the pros and the cons. If these meds are helping at all, I will stick with them.

My doctor said he likes feeling like a hero, so if the meds don’t work, he’d ‘fire’ me. I told him since he has helped me, even a little bit, he is my hero.

[TishaBuv]

6 months with a self proclaimed med genius, and the meds didn’t really help. 20 sessions with (according to the med genius, a freaky genius therapist) and nothing has helped. I’m not even sure what he said after all these sessions. I’m exhausted.

[*Beth*]

I'm confused...your pdoc said he'd fire you because the meds he prescribed don't work?

[TishaBuv]

Originally Posted by BethRags

I'm confused...your pdoc said he'd fire you because the meds he prescribed don't work?

Yes. I’m sure he said ‘fire’, he meant it to mean discharge, stop seeing me. He said he had an overload of patients with more pressing needs and if I wasn’t getting good enough results from the meds after I’ve been seeing him for several months, and he tweaked my meds just twice, he felt he could not help me. He did refer my husband and I to a psychologist for talk therapy, and thinks that is enough now for my h (who he already discharged saying meds were not therapeutic).

I’m confused too. If no meds are helpful ‘enough’, does that mean neither of us have a level of mental issues needing meds? Does that mean one of both of us has something untreatable by meds?

I’m still on all he prescribed me, even increased one, but they don’t help with the relationship issue (long term pervasive intimacy issue). They do help with coping a bit better with the fallout when the issue occurs (often )

He used the term ‘treatment resistant’. I take that to mean as in Depression. Words like ‘trauma’ and ‘anxiety’ were bounced around by both docs. No real diagnosis was given, when I pressed them for an answer about if there is one for me. The best direct answer I got was ‘anxiety’.

[Open Eyes]

Meds don't remove relationship challenges Tisha, meds are to help you manage how these challenges stress and depleat you or can cause you to over react.

That is terrible that the psychiatrist said he would fire you. People need to try different meds and different doses until they figure out what helps them best.

However, it's also important to check your health and hormonal levels too as that can be part of the problem.

[TishaBuv]

Originally Posted by Open Eyes

Meds don't remove relationship challenges Tisha, meds are to help you manage how these challenges stress and depleat you or can cause you to over react.

That is terrible that the psychiatrist said he would fire you. People need to try different meds and different doses until they figure out what helps them best.

However, it's also important to check your health and hormonal levels too as that can be part of the problem.

All the blood tests I’ve ever taken have always come back fine with everything checked.

I think what happens is I have anxiety and my h has anxiety. The intimacy triggers this anxiety most in both of us, and we are not good for each other in this way because of that.

I wish the doctor would have been as forthright with me as you have about how the meds only manage my reactions to the challenge and do not help stop the challenge before it goes bad which causes my ‘overreaction’.

Meh, I chose to endure traumatic intimacy dysfunction causing me frustration, anger, and profuse crying to the point of debilitation rather than ending the marriage. I chose that many, many years ago and it continued all this time. I chose it out of my selfishness because of all the other great things it provided me. I chose it out of my wish to have and maintain a family. I chose it because I do love him (but I vascillate each time we constantly deal with the intimacy struggle). I chose to endure because of my fear that I have a disorder and I may be much worse off emotionally if I leave.

I just spent a few days away, and I didn’t like the feeling of having to go it alone. It’s just too stressful for me. I came home, just wanting to act like I need to and lean on his partnership. He’s safe. I’m not sure I’m okay by myself, nor think that would be something I want.

This psychiatrist is the most egotistical person I’ve ever met, but I don’t care if he can finally help me. My blood test has shown I am still on a sub therapeutic dose, so he may want to increase, which scares me and I don’t know if I want to do that.

If these meds do help me bounce back sooner, I’ll take that improvement. They currently do not have bad side effects for me.

I came home from this few days away feeling like I can just let go of the traumatic montage of all that happened and keeps flashing back on me daily, constantly. I feel I can move forward. It wasn’t the meds that did that. It was the reality of being on my own!

[TishaBuv]

I’m now nearly completely off all psych meds and feeling fine. The meds didn’t help my issue. Only I can help my issue.

[puzzclar]

Exactly, Tisha. Meds are a superficial bandaid that does little for a person. I've spent time taking meds and doing talk therapy for years. I've gotten farther planning and having a vision / goals that has helped more. I was on with my T in a crisis and he encouraged me to get up, break down the steps and go for a walk.

Our body only knows what out brain tells us. And when trauma has been around, trauma and fear control us. When we learn to navigate this new situation we take back power. Personal power can bring us more peace then meds.

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