[kgartist]

My partner is grieving/depressed. Her mom died from an accidental overdose 5 mos ago. For the last month she has dreamt of her and daily she becomes increasingly distant from me. She is never affectionate or intimate anymore. She never volunteers how much she loves me. She is a completely different person. She refuses counseling.
Even though she acts this way to me, to the rest of the world she acts like she is fine. She jokes and has fun with all of her friends, but when its just us she's down. Further, when we are home at night alone, she jumps on facebook and talks to everyone and jokes with everyone but me.
I try to make jokes and have fun but that is not received. I'm so alone and so hurt and want to love her through this but I don't know how.
Please help!

[possum220]

As hard as it is going to be, try and let your partner know how you feel. Maybe if she feels more comfortable maybe you could send her an email to crack the ice? Or just print out your post from here? She is obviously in a great deal of pain and is pushing you away.

Maybe she isn't ready to deal with it yet. If not, try and let her know you care, and then drop the subject. Sometimes we can push people away.

It is a hard to know what to do. I wish I could be more helpful. Maybe she is angry with her mother and misdirecting that anger back at you? Ask her.