[Speed3]

My only child died suddenly on 1/3/13. Up till now I didn't feel I really needed a grief counselor. I have bipolar disorder and thought my psychiatrist could help me with the grief issues.

I was wrong, also it has been 6 months and these past two weeks have been incredibly hard. It is like I fell asleep when he died and now I am awake and the grief is hitting me full force. His birthdate is soon I am not sure if that is causing the extra pain and just finding it hard to make it through the day.

When I look on the Internet there are a lot of grief counselors in my area. I am looking for some advice on what I should be looking at in picking one. I hate the trial and error process and don't feel up to it.

Any advice and comments would be appreciated.

Thanks

[lynn P.]

(((Speed3))) - I'm very sorry for the loss of your only child. It's normal with his birth date approaching you would feel the grief intensify. Have you tried asking your family physician or friends for a recommendation? Maybe an organization of parents who lost children could recommend one? I wish I had exact points to look for. Here's a couple links:

Open To Hope, Support for Dealing with Death, Grief, Loss, Bereavement

How To Choose A Grief Therapist (Psychology)

[Gus1234U]

i had no idea that it was so recent, Speed3... my heart goes out to you. do not be afraid to grieve,,, i cried for 3 yrs, everytime my T let me~ take the time you need, as you can~! {{{ Hugz }}}

[Grey Matter]

My mom is struggling... I can't even imagine losing a child. My heart and sympathies. I truly hope you can find an amazing grief counselor. You deserve someone who listens with love.

[TerryL]

Some counselors post their approaches/methods online and that may give you a sense of what they will be like. Some will do a free phone consultation which is even better. You can also try to contact hospices for referrals. I am so sorry for your loss.

[Citrine]

Im sooo sorry Speed3. I dont know how else to help really perhaps you should do many things, church, phonelines, an actual counsellor though a mix you may find someone u feel better with out of them all.

[bebop]

I don't know what happened to your son, but I would look at a support group that deals with the same type of deaths. sudden death, tragic accident, etc. That way you are with people that understand your type of grief.

[goodgirl62]

My 23 year old son died on March 8, 3013, and I'm still not right. I'm doing what I have to survive, but I miss him so much. I cry on a daily basis, I have doubt in my faith now, and I don't know how to move forward. (((Hugs))) to both of us.