[Dean1884]

My cousin's father passed away three days ago. My cousin is the only daughter of her parents. Her mother has already left this world four years ago. She exclusively is dependent on her father. I am very much worried about her. She is not accepting the death of her father.. She believes her father is gonna come home soon.. She thinks her father is still in the hospital and will be fine soon. Her father underwent a brain-surgery but he passed away. She still irons her father's clothes. She goes to the market to buy fruits for her father. I am too tensed for her. I love her like my sister. please help.. When she will be fine and normal ? I am feeling very sad. I can't concentrate on anything
Age of my cousin : 24
Employement : a government employee.
Marital status : unmarried.

[kirby777]

Dean-

Everyone goes through the grief process at their own rate. She is probably in shock.

My father died when I was 11 and I did think he was coming back. I forget what age I was when I realized he wasn't, but needless to say, my high school years were turbulant. I am also an only child. They say children grieve sifferent than adults.

It is great that she has you to help her!

[Hong Kong Fluey]

I feel so sorry for her, send her a hug from me.

I think she needs some bereavement counselling asap, you can get it here in the UK, not sure where you are though

[Grey Matter]

She is grieving. Denial is a huge part of this. It took me 8 months to realize my brother wasn't in the hospital. That he had died. And he wasn't returning. I still make two cups of tea without really noticing. I still go to tell him something even though he isn't there. Please know the defining "normal" in cases like this can do more damage than good. Let her grieve the way she needs to, and be supportive of her as best as you can. Maybe even go to counselling together so she doesn't feel alone.

My thoughts are with her at this time.

[Dean1884]

Kerby, Fluey and Teen , thank you so much. You guys are so nice that I felt good after reading your replies. My sister finally realized that her father is no more and she has started crying. I will always be there for her. thanks again for talking to me.