[mikeffd]

My cousin and her baby daughter were murdered in another country. Her family has traveled there as the baby is still alive, in critical condition and the prognosis is poor.

I'm stunned. I've never had to deal with any sort of loss. My family has been flattened by this. I'm not sure how to cope. I can't imagine anything ever been the same.

Advise?

[Sabrina]

I have no advise but am really sorry for you. How very tragic.

[tametc]

Originally Posted by mikeffd

My cousin and her baby daughter were murdered in another country. Her family has traveled there as the baby is still alive, in critical condition and the prognosis is poor.

I'm stunned. I've never had to deal with any sort of loss. My family has been flattened by this. I'm not sure how to cope. I can't imagine anything ever been the same.

Advise?

I am so sorry. It is a horrendous tragedy, and I am at a loss for words. Sending you lots of positive thoughts, and praying for you and their family.

[pizzolar]

You're right that nothing will ever be the same. The only advice I can give is to be good to yourself and your loved ones. Take extra time to take care of yourself, pay extra attention to your needs. Particularly when a loss is sudden and violent, its easy to focus on all the questions you must have. Focus on your cousin. Her life, your memories. When my friend was murdered I found writing to be really helpful and cathartic. It allowed me to think and talk about him in a safe space, and left me with a beautiful record of my memories of him.