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Member Since Jan 2007
Location: Canada
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Jan 18, 2007 at 02:23 PM
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Hi Everyone,
I am new to this forum and would like to get some feedback. My father passed away May 14, 2004. I miss him terribly. I went through the grieving process with a great grief councellor. The problem is, my pop was very much a big part of who I am. I am the youngest of 4, and 47, with 2 kids and he helped so much throughout my life that it is hard to stand alone. He pretty much did all for me which in hindsight is not good, and was always there for me. I feel sometimes I am a little child, not knowing where to turn. Does grief last this long, and is there a way I can be more confident with the choices that I make. Thank you for your time. Aja |
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Jan 18, 2007 at 08:18 PM
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aja........i could have written this post myself....but my dad died in 1981.......and i still grieve for him.........my dad was also a very big part of my life but what helps me in making choices is to think of how he taught me to handle things......take what he gave you in the way of life lessons and use them when you can....know that he would be proud of you...take your time and grieve as you must......it will get better..i can promise you this.......
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Grand Poohbah
Member Since Oct 2006
Location: Washington State
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Jan 18, 2007 at 11:48 PM
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Oh Aja,
I do feel for you. My father passed when I was 42 and my Mother passed when I was 46, I am 52 now, so I do understand. I still grieve for the both of them to this day. It can be almost unbearable at times. I sit here at night after my hubby goes to bed and will cry my eyes out because I miss them so much. I am tearing up right now because just even talking about them brings it all up. I wish that I had some magic potion that we could all take and make this hurt go away, but as far as I know, there isn't any. Wishing you all the best. Hugs, Linda __________________  What doesn't kill us, makes us stronger. |
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Grand Magnate
Member Since Nov 2005
Location: Kansas
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Jan 24, 2007 at 09:21 PM
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Aja,
It takes time. In your case you are dealing with the loss of someone so close and dear to you, and also learning to stand on your own two feet. It sounds like you have lost a sense of security with the loss of your Dad. My mother did not allow me to become independent no matter how hard I tried when I was growing up. This has made it harder for me to recover from her loss in March 1997. Be patient with yourself, and keep posting. There are a lot of understanding people on this site. Hugs, EJ |
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