[JasmineBlue]

My mom died a year and a half ago after a 2 year battle of nonsmoker's lung cancer. I quit my job to help my dad care for my mom and was with her until she took her last breath. My mom told me on her deathbed to take care of dad so I moved in to see my dad through. A month after mom's funeral he meets women and starts dating. I know he would do this eventually but not that soon. I just bit my tongue and figured this is the way he dealt with grief. I continued to cook do laundry clean whilst going back to university to finish my degree. Now I think it is getting out of hand. My dad is seeing two women and he forces me upon them. The first meeting was here she is. Didn't think to ask if I was ready to meet them and no consideration for my feelings. The first woman left for vacation and left her dog for me to look after. My dad's responsibility but he is too busy seeing woman number #2 and spends several days a week at her place. When he comes home he expects his clothes laundered and meals cooked. Last night he brought her over the house expecting me to cook them dinner. They were being lovey dovey and I was completely disgusted. How dare they in my mother's house. The place she and my father built a life and family. The place where she died. Seeing he and that woman exacerbated my grief even more like my father is trying to erase my mother's memory. I feel like I'm being disrespected, my mother is being betrayed, and I feel unappreciated and used as a maid & cook. I'm also afraid that al assets my mom worked hard for will not be earmarked as she intended will go to the woman whoever my dad marries. If he ever does.

My graduation is coming up (I'm graduating with highest honors) and my dad mentioned that she is coming to the graduation as his date. I don't want her there. It is hard enough that my mother will not be there. I just want to be happy on my day and not deal with this crap. I try to tell my dad my feelings but he just shuts me out. He has become a narcissist like he is the only one grieving and his wellbeing is #1.

I don't know what to do. Seeing them together opened the floodgates of grief again and I cry myself to sleep. I'm feeling major resentment towards my dad.

[Keyslost]

Sounds like he's trying to move on and you're still grieving. Unfortunately if he doesn't want to talk that puts a problem in the middle of all this. This may sounds backwards but have you talked to his gf about this stuff. Be careful how you word things though make it more about missing your mom than that feeling of her creeping into your fam. She may be able to talk him into hearing you out. If she really cares she will listen and have your back. If, however, she turns out to be awful then all that is required of you is to tolerate (technically not even that but it's better long run). If things get dicey come back or msg. I've dealt with different circumstances but same issue (dad won't listen and gf didn't get along with me).