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Old Apr 17, 2017, 02:30 AM
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I lost my father 1 week ago to this day, it feels like he is just on vacation. The viewing is on Tuesday and the funeral on Wednesday. We I see him again, everything will come back and reality will set in and I can't handle the reality, I love my dad.
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Old Apr 17, 2017, 02:34 AM
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I am so sorry for your loss
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Old Apr 17, 2017, 11:49 AM
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I've been thinking of you since your email, I just now got a chance to pull my laptop out and post. Sending you many hugs hun, just know you are not alone in your grief, it is so hard to lose someone that is in your everyday life.
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Old Apr 17, 2017, 02:46 PM
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I am very sorry for your loss.
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Old Apr 17, 2017, 04:34 PM
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The viewing...the funeral... [When] I see him again...
You will not, you will only see an empty host where he used to be. Whatever your personal beliefs in relation to life-after-death might be, think on those kinds of things now and talk about them with others at the viewing and funeral.
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Old Apr 17, 2017, 09:52 PM
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oh no ariesmars, I am soooo sorry for your loss.
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Old Apr 17, 2017, 11:26 PM
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I'm starting to dread the next few days. :crying:
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Old Apr 18, 2017, 11:01 AM
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I'm starting to dread the next few days. :crying:
Thinking of you and wrapping you in hugs. Funerals can be so hard and emotionally draining.
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Old Apr 18, 2017, 12:00 PM
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Old Apr 18, 2017, 12:25 PM
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Old Apr 20, 2017, 09:35 AM
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Old Apr 20, 2017, 09:45 PM
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I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. My dad passed away in December, and I still get the urge to call him now and then.

You will heal in time. Be patient with yourself.
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Old Apr 21, 2017, 02:53 PM
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Old Apr 21, 2017, 07:04 PM
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all loss is difficult,but I have discovered that no matter what the relationship was like parents seem to be the hardest of all,I lost my mum a while ago and am struggling to come to terms with it , sending you hugs and hoping you can have. lots of love and support at round you irl .
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Old Apr 25, 2017, 11:50 AM
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I just want to see my dad, to be with him, to hear him. To know he is ok, a sign of some kind.
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Old Apr 25, 2017, 12:03 PM
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I just want to see my dad, to be with him, to hear him. To know he is ok, a sign of some kind.
Perhaps he will some day. About 5 years after my mom's death, I felt like she came to me one night in a dream. I had not shaken the uneasy feeling I had had since her death but in the dream it felt like she hugged me and sent me the message that you are OK the way you are--I understand the way you behaved toward me. I felt peaceful after that dream. My grieving process was 99 % over......
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Old Apr 25, 2017, 06:35 PM
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I just want to see my dad, to be with him, to hear him. To know he is ok, a sign of some kind.
I can relate to this , I have a small lock of my mums hair in a locket with a photograph that I wear all the time ,it helps a little.
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She has to remind herself, she is good and kind ...
For that's a fact. 😺


like a small boat on the ocean ,
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like how a single word,
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I might have only one match
But i can make an Explosion !
Rachel. Platten. Fight song.


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Old Apr 28, 2017, 01:24 PM
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I just want to see my dad, to be with him, to hear him. To know he is ok, a sign of some kind.
Hi ariesmars. I am so sorry you are so heartbroken by the loss of your dad. Grief is something that runs deep and heals very slowly in my experience.

When I lost my dad 7 months ago, I started having dreams of him. I took that as a sign he was there. Moving on with the next step, but there none the less.

Hope you find a sign in small ways or large.
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