[Everstorm]

If you've read any of my recent posts you'll know a lot of my recent anxiety stems from difficulties in my current relationship. Almost at breaking point, if it wasn't for us owning a house together with nowhere else to go...

Anyway, skip to this morning. We received a call to tell us his dad passed away last night... Now my instinct was to park any of my recent concerns about our relationship and address the new priority, helping him deal with this sudden trauma.
I have let him know that I am here for him should he need anything, and then given him space as seems appropriate - so he can talk when he's ready.

I'm not sure that he really wants anything to do with me, but I will be there for him regardless as he deals with this grief. Any other issues can be dealt with at a later date, this certainly is not the time for additional stresses.

Does anyone have any other suggestions what I can do to try and help? I feel useless...

[Travelinglady]

Hi, Everstorm. Does he need help with planning the funeral, etc.? I did that when my hubby's mom died. Otherwise, it sounds like you've told him you're available. You can also do some nice things for him, if he seems willing.

[CANDC]

Hi everstorm. Welcome to Psych Central. I am sorry you are in a most difficult situation with your boyfriend. That sounds very stressful. Some couples try couples therapy to work out their differences and agree to disagree.

Grief is difficult in anyone but losing a dad for a man can be the most profound loss of his life. Some people break down and others postpone grieving, sometimes for years. It sounds like you have tried to be there for them. They may not want to let their grief out. Cannot force that just be there for them and maybe help if attending funeral.

Unfortunately some people have anger inside that comes out so stay safe if you find them being combative. It sounds like a difficult time for you and your boyfriend but hopefully they will keep their cool in these stressful times.