[CalamityJane425]

I never liked my Father. He put me & my Mom through Hell during the child custody years.
No I didn't really love him but I did keep in touch with him over the years.
However once he got sick whenever that was because he didn't tell me, he died suddenly.
He WAS WEIRD! That's how I feel about the whole thing. He would leave these freakin cryptic messages he was never clear on anything for example: this is what he said to me.
"I had a party thrown in my honor" My Godfather (whom I never seen at any time in my life) had thrown it for my Father. I knew nothing about it.
My Dad made a big deal about this party, I was clueless b/c I had no idea what he was talking about.
Dad also mentions a town I never heard of in a back water town in Florida. My Father lived in Los Angeles.
I asked him why he would want to move to the small town in Florida he says nothing. It turns out he moved there with his last wife to die, this was were the wife's family lived. And it was a back water town were the people talked like the Clampetts.
This guy was a piece of work!
SO one day I come home from class to get a message on my answering machine. It's his ignorant Wife. She informs me that my Father has passed away.
Now for anyone who doesn't know proper etiquette YOU NEVER, EVER DO THIS!
Bluntly put my Father or sperm donor was a coward to the end. He almost ruined my life as a younger girl, mom almost committed suicide over that stunt he pulled with the custody & now this.
No, I don't miss him.
I never liked his manipulation. Wished I never wasted my time on him.
Oh well.
Moral to the story. Don't waste time with a no good bum of a Father.
And thats it.
Post Script
I couldn't go to the Funeral since it was in Florida & I live in Seattle I had no money to fly down there & Mom couldn't loan me the money.
Dad had no burial insurance he was buried but how is anyone's guess. When I spoke with the grave digger guy ( he was real nice but had a deep drawl)what he said was that he dug the grave & buried Dad free of charge. The guy had said that he was truly disappointed over the fact that despite his last wife coming from a very large family NOT ONE PERSON PAID HIM A PENNY!
Grave digger guy (I don't remember his name) was deeply hurt over one other thing.
Not one person thanked him for his work! He was very hurt.
That was one trashy woman my Dad was married to.

I can relate to some of what you have said here. My dad was a piece of work too. Its hard losing someone and still having anger or unresolved feelings towards them. You have my sympathies.

[CalamityJane425]

Originally Posted by TheSadGirl

I can relate to some of what you have said here. My dad was a piece of work too. Its hard losing someone and still having anger or unresolved feelings towards them. You have my sympathies.

Thanks again for the reply,
Life is certainly strange.
Take care.

[CalamityJane425]

Originally Posted by TheSadGirl

I can relate to some of what you have said here. My dad was a piece of work too. Its hard losing someone and still having anger or unresolved feelings towards them. You have my sympathies.

Dear Sad Girl,
Thank you again. If I may share a bit. Losing that no good Father of mine did hurt. I will be seeing a therapist to work all this out, bad news is that it will have to wait until the holidays this is a new one & she is taking the month of December off I can't see her until Jan 10th.
Wished I could go somewhere.
Had a horrible week too. Psycho neighbor came to my door in all her madness screaming then threatening me.
So I have no idea if I've left you a reply or not.
I hope you have a good Christmas. I'll be spending mine getting my small apartment prepped to move out. Yup, I'm getting out of Dodge.

Originally Posted by CalamityJane425

Dear Sad Girl,
Thank you again. If I may share a bit. Losing that no good Father of mine did hurt. I will be seeing a therapist to work all this out, bad news is that it will have to wait until the holidays this is a new one & she is taking the month of December off I can't see her until Jan 10th.
Wished I could go somewhere.
Had a horrible week too. Psycho neighbor came to my door in all her madness screaming then threatening me.
So I have no idea if I've left you a reply or not.
I hope you have a good Christmas. I'll be spending mine getting my small apartment prepped to move out. Yup, I'm getting out of Dodge.

I'm glad to hear about therapy, but sorry you have to wait until January. Also sorry about the crazy neighbors, I've been there. I hope Christmas treats you well. Moving is a lot of work, but exciting as well!