[xrp2501]

Hello and thanks in advance for any help or input
Our grandson will turn 7 in a month, and is very intelligent for his age. Parents have been split since 2 but have a good working relationship. He lives with Mom, and has grown up around her much younger Brother, more like a sibling than an Uncle. Unfortunately he decided on Tuesday morning to end his life at only 21 years old. There was apparently not any warning signs.
When told, Our grandson replied " Thats OK he would not play games with me anymore anyway" and ran off and crawled under his Moms SUV and not come out.

The most disturbing thing is over the last year we have heard our grandson make comments about dying and running out in the street since we didn't love him when he didn't get his way, and now wonder what his Uncle may have been saying to him?

[Skeezyks]

Thank you for sharing this tragic story here on PC. Personally I think the obvious recommendation here is to have your grandson seen by a child psychologist or mental health therapist who has expertise in working with children. In the meantime, here are links to 9 articles, from PsychCentral's archives, that hopefully may be of some help. These are not going to address your grandson's situation directly. But, hopefully, the information in them can be helpful in understanding the dynamics of the situation your grandson is in & in figuring out how to address these tragic circumstances:

How to Support a Child when a Parent Suicides | Unshakeable Calm

An Open Letter to Any Child Who Lost a Parent to Suicide

Suicide: Helping Survivors Cope

Should I Talk to My Child about Suicide?

What Parents Need to Know about Childhood Depression

Child Depression and Adolescent Depression

https://psychcentral.com/lib/depress...-and-children/

https://psychcentral.com/lib/depress...ts-caregivers/

https://psychcentral.com/blog/helpin...ming-behavior/

My best wishes to you & your family...

P.S. Here's a link to another series of articles I just came upon, in PC's archives, on the subject of talking to your child about the loss of a loved one:

https://psychcentral.com/lib/talking...f-a-loved-one/

[Nammu]

So sorry. I haven't any Wisedom for this situation but wanted you to know I read your post. Welcome to PC hugs and good vibes to your grandson.

[xrp2501]

Thanks again. He doesn't know about how he died, Mom told him just that he died from a broken heart.
Reading as much info as I can, passing links along to both parents.

[Buffy01]

Originally Posted by xrp2501

Hello and thanks in advance for any help or input
Our grandson will turn 7 in a month, and is very intelligent for his age. Parents have been split since 2 but have a good working relationship. He lives with Mom, and has grown up around her much younger Brother, more like a sibling than an Uncle. Unfortunately he decided on Tuesday morning to end his life at only 21 years old. There was apparently not any warning signs.
When told, Our grandson replied " Thats OK he would not play games with me anymore anyway" and ran off and crawled under his Moms SUV and not come out.

The most disturbing thing is over the last year we have heard our grandson make comments about dying and running out in the street since we didn't love him when he didn't get his way, and now wonder what his Uncle may have been saying to him?

Let me expressed my deepest condolences and sympathy. I would love to give you a big hug and let you know that my prayers are with you during this difficult time. I assured that into understand what you are going through because I had lost my brother in law to suicide.

My brother in law has became extremely paranoid and down all of the time and I mistaken assumed that the paranoid was due to the bullying that had taken place at his job before losing his job. Since I been threaten by my boss the way my brother in law had been threaten by his boss and coworkers. All I know is when a person is in that much pain and despair they can't see that there is light in the end of the tunnel. They have more pain than they can cope with.

You may never know what was going through his mind when he decide to take his own life. But you can find help for your grandson. Look for someone who specializes in trauma, grief and suicide. It will helps. Have you tried asking your grandson why he feels this way? have you tried asking him what did his uncle say to him that make him feel this way?

[Buffy01]

Originally Posted by Skeezyks

Thank you for sharing this tragic story here on PC. Personally I think the obvious recommendation here is to have your grandson seen by a child psychologist or mental health therapist who has expertise in working with children. In the meantime, here are links to 9 articles, from PsychCentral's archives, that hopefully may be of some help. These are not going to address your grandson's situation directly. But, hopefully, the information in them can be helpful in understanding the dynamics of the situation your grandson is in & in figuring out how to address these tragic circumstances:

How to Support a Child when a Parent Suicides | Unshakeable Calm

An Open Letter to Any Child Who Lost a Parent to Suicide

Suicide: Helping Survivors Cope

Should I Talk to My Child about Suicide?

What Parents Need to Know about Childhood Depression

Child Depression and Adolescent Depression

https://psychcentral.com/lib/depress...-and-children/

https://psychcentral.com/lib/depress...ts-caregivers/

https://psychcentral.com/blog/helpin...ming-behavior/

My best wishes to you & your family...

P.S. Here's a link to another series of articles I just came upon, in PC's archives, on the subject of talking to your child about the loss of a loved one:

https://psychcentral.com/lib/talking...f-a-loved-one/

That is great advice! I wish that I had thought about looking for information like this when I lost my brother in law

[Buffy01]

Originally Posted by xrp2501

Thanks again. He doesn't know about how he died, Mom told him just that he died from a broken heart.
Reading as much info as I can, passing links along to both parents.

What about suicide support group?