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Hello all,
My brother committed suicide this morning. It came as a huge shock as it was so something he was always against and he was a happy go lucky guy. The fact that he would do this and leave behind his daughter is shocking. It is not anything like the person we knew. Right now we are at the hospital and he has been taken off of the ventilator because the doctors say there is no chance of recovery. He doesn’t seem to want to give up though, but he will never be able to live a normal life or even function at all. I just needed to write this down. There is nothing anyone can do, but he is still fighting. But there is no longer anything to fight for as he is basically gone. I don’t know why he did it. I just wish he hadn’t. I’m not mad at him, just broken. |
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I'm so, so sorry. Please know your being held ((wishing you lasting peace, Hon))
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I'm so sorry.
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__________________ "I may be older but I am not wise / I'm still a child's grown-up disguise / and I never can tell you what you want to know / You will find out as you go." (from: "A Nightengale's Lullaby" - Julie Last) |
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What an awful tragedy. I am so sorry that this has happened. It must be such a shock.
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Thank you for the kind words everyone. It has been a little over a week and now I have to go back to work. I honestly do not feel ready yet and I am scared of seeing people and hearing their questions. I am not ashamed of how my brother died, I am just not mentally in the position to want to rehash it. Here’s to hoping things go well tomorrow.
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I’m so sorry, space. Are you able to explain to your employer that you are not ready to be back, and at least get some reduced hours? Do you have a T to help you through this horrible period of grief?
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I am sorry for your loss spaceid. I cannot imagine how rough that must be.
This article gave me some comfort Coping In The Aftermath of Suicide | Healing Together for Couples __________________ Super Moderator Community Support Team "Things Take Time" |
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I am sorry for your loss spaceid. I cannot imagine how rough that must be.
This article gave me some comfort Coping In The Aftermath of Suicide | Healing Together for Couples __________________ Super Moderator Community Support Team "Things Take Time" |
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