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Hello d84zips: Thank you for sharing this tragic story here on PC. I see this is your first post. So welcome to Psych Central. Hopefully coming here to PC can be of some comfort & support for you.
There has been nothing in my life that would compare with what you have experienced. So there isn't anything personal I can share. Perhaps there will be other members who will have some experiences they can share. In the meantime however here are links to 4 articles, from Psych Central's archives, on the subject of complicated grief that hopefully may be of some help: What is Complicated Grief? | Mental Health Awareness Complicated Grief: How to Get Unstuck | Bonding Time Change Your Thinking To Change Feelings of Hopelessness Grief and Loss Quiz I hope you find PC to be of benefit. __________________ "I may be older but I am not wise / I'm still a child's grown-up disguise / and I never can tell you what you want to know / You will find out as you go." (from: "A Nightengale's Lullaby" - Julie Last) |
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Hello kd84zips. Thank you for sharing your truth here I am deeply sorry that your friend was murdered. Like Skeezyks, I have not experienced something like this so I cannot relate directly. The rest of us read such stories in the news but I can only imagine the horror and shock when murder actually becomes part of your own personal truth.
Universal speed to your best friend. I think the numbness you are experiencing, though unpleasant, is natural. Your mind is overwhelmed so it is numbing out for a while to help you cope. Would you consider speaking with a grief therapist? Someone experienced in helping people heal after loss due to murder? You said you never got to say goodbye. Perhaps it's not too late? What about having a tribute for your best friend or even writing her a goodbye letter in the privacy of your home? Light a candle in her honor and read your goodbye message aloud. You never know....perhaps that would help even a little bit? I had a colleague who ended his life. He was a wonderful man. We were shocked. One of our clients was in terrible distress when she heard the news. She kept saying "I never got to tell him how great he was!" I asked if she would like to write him a letter. So I typed while she said everything she wanted to tell him. She read the letter to herself over and over again. It comforted her and helped her to breathe quietly again. She later gave the letter to my colleague's mother who said she felt deeply proud of the love and respect shown for her son. Just a thought for you. If you write a goodbye letter to your best friend, you could even take the letter to a favorite childhood place you two loved....maybe read it to her there? I am also very sorry that you lost your grandpa. This is a deeply painful and confusing time for you. Try to be patient and kind with yourself. Surround yourself with loving and supportive people. Breathe slowly and deeply. One moment at a time. Universal speed to your grandpa. You have my empathy kd84zips. I wish you solace, love, and hope. |
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