[MUNDANE]

I have 2 grown up daughters and 4 grandchildren and in December last year something happened which caused me never to see any of them again. I feel such great loss and mental pain. I know that things will never change now. It would be impossible for any kind of reconciliation.

[Skeezyks]

Hello MUNDANE: Although this is your first post, here on PC, I see you are a 3 year member. So... a belated welcome to Psych Central to you.

Here are links to 5 articles, from Psych Central's archives, that (hopefully) may be of some help:

When Parents and Children Are Estranged

Recovering From the Loss of a Dream | Always Learning

Surviving a Life Crisis

Emotional Rehabilitation: Recovery from Loss

Surprising Losses that Need to Be Grieved

I hope you've found PC to be of benefit.

[Seahound]

There is always a chance at reconciliation , even if they are long odds. Relationships are layered and complex.

I know where I'm at today, I cannot forgive the wrongs done to me. I'm working at being the best version of me just for today.

You're in the right place.

Seahound

[TishaBuv]

Hello and welcome to PC! You are not alone in this. I’m grieving not so loving loved ones who are currently estranged, lost, yet not deceased, thus not necessarily lost forever. Miracles can happen!

[shelda]

I know the feeling of having your Grown children not bothering with you. I will ask and they never have time, it's really hard to not feel as though i can go see them. I know they do not want to see me much either.

[shelda]

Grief is ..then you wonder how to move past it all and to try and feel anything other than sadness. A nightmare that I wake up to but I have had some good dreams lately not sure if its trying to talk to my Higher power or not..but I have been trying to do something and am willing to try anything to get out of this sad and lonely place.

[TishaBuv]

I’m thinking about doing something positive in a new direction. When one door closes another opens. If this person has no use for me surely someone else will.

[CANDC]

Originally Posted by MUNDANE

I have 2 grown up daughters and 4 grandchildren and in December last year something happened which caused me never to see any of them again. I feel such great loss and mental pain. I know that things will never change now. It would be impossible for any kind of reconciliation.

Mundane, I am sorry for your loss. It sounds so tragic. I have read of teachers who had a higher vision and answered the question "Who is my family?" in a surprising way. "all of these people around me are my family."

I sometimes feel that people at Psych Central are like family to me. I go to support groups and they help me deal with the rough challenges life sends my way.

I in no way mean to lessen how painful this is, but if there is nothing you can do to reconcile with them, doesn't it make sense to find other people to appreciate and help and have in our lives. Volunteering is one way to do this.

This youtube video on Acceptance helps me when I listen to it to just have a day where I am not battling my own thoughts.

If you want other links besides the wonderful ones Skeezyks provided, there are more here Coping with Grief | Psych Central

please include the following tag in any reply concerning this post so I get an alert to see your post: @CANDC thank you!

[TishaBuv]

Estrangement is immensely painful.

[LilyMop]

I’m sorry you’re going through this. I know what it’s like. I think acceptance is the first step... for me anyway that is the case. Welcome to PC and best of luck to you.

[Paper Roses]

I am new and I realize it’s been a couple of months since anyone responded to this thread. I too am grieving the loss of my two adult children and their children who are alive.

I feel very alone and ashamed to tell anyone. I think they will think I was a bad mother. I was not. I’m sure I made mistakes but I was not abusive or neglectful.

I will try to message you. Not sure what I have access to right now.

Thanks for sharing