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Default Oct 13, 2020 at 03:00 PM
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I'm so sorry you lost your mom. She sounds like she was a very loving person. I hope things with your dad go well. Sending loving thoughts your way.

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This Tuesday my dear mum died suddenly. I can't say it was unexpected, but definitely not in this way!
She'd been battling leukaemia for 8 years but her results of bone marrow were perfect! Last week her hematologist called that she was still in remission and they were very satisfied with her blood results. She could continue with her treatment that would prevent the cancer from returning. She was excited and so happy! We planned to celebrate great news. We wanted to have a little party in our small family.

On Thursday, she got a mild discomfort in her stomach, but nothing worth mentioning. On Friday night she vomited. On Saturday she was very sleepy, vomited and couldn't eat. She felt better Sunday morning. She cooked lunch, washed dishes and ironed clothes.

Sunday afternoon she stumbled when walking, spilled a glass of water and had a few minor memory /concentration issues. She planned to go to her Dr the next day.

After midnight on Sunday (Monday morning) both dad and me had to support her on her way to the bathroom. She probably didn't see well. She was disoriented. She fell asleep again when suddenly she began coughing out water and couldn't turn her head to the side. We had to put her in a stabilised position. We called the ambulance.

When they came, they asked her if she knew where she was. She did know that correctly, however she couldn't tell what year it was and couldn't touch her nose with her finger. They took her with them at 2.46am Monday morning. We weren't allowed to go with her.
Monday at about 11-12 we were told she was unconscious and they did CT but there was no stroke, bleeding or clot in her brain. She wasn't reacting to any stimuli. But she was still breathing on her own. She was still in ordinary "internal department". In the afternoon/evening they put her into intensive care. At night they moved her to the resuscitation unit. Next day at noon (Tuesday) it was over.

They did all the tests and couldn't find any reason for this.

Now, I've lost my closest, most beloved being. Someone I spent all my weekends with, someone I called daily, who I depended on. You see I'm quite socially isolated, I don't have friends in this town, they're all over the country and abroad. My mum was here for me physically... To hug, to chat, cook and bake together...
Now dad has returned from their garden cottage (where they lived together with mum from the spring to the autumn) and he'll live with me in the flat. He's a good person but he never used to talk much and we never had a very close relationship because he used to sleep a lot and when he didn't sleep he was quiet or grumpy. He has a good heart and he is caring, but I don't really know him as a person...
But these days we're talking quite a lot and we do everything together. Perhaps this will strengthen our relationship...
But nothing can heal the wound of losing mummy in such a way.
I'm very sorry that your mom died. My dad had four types of cancer. Be kind to yourself and take care of yourself.
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I'm very sorry that your mom died. My dad had four types of cancer. Be kind to yourself and take care of yourself.
I'm sorry about your dad, Buffy. It must have been a terrible experience for both him and you.
Thank you for your kind words ❤️
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Default Oct 17, 2020 at 02:25 PM
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I just saw this post Seeker33, I am very sorry for you loss of your Mother. If you ever need to talk my pm is always there if you ever need to talk, im here to listen and be there for you. I lost my Mom when. Please be gentle with yourself and take care of yourself Hugs
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(((((((( SEEKER33 ))))))))

My thoughts are with you.

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I’m so sorry for your loss, seeker33, I’m sending you virtual hugs but wish there was more I could do.
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Default Nov 10, 2020 at 01:00 PM
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I'm sorry, I didn't see this until today.

Sending you my warmest condolences. The loss of anyone close to us is always traumatic, no matter what the circumstances are. The loss of our mothers is especially so.

I hope you have a support system that can see you through. And we're always here to help, and to understand.
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I'm so so sorry. HUGS

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Default Nov 11, 2020 at 10:36 AM
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I'm so sorry about your loss. I know the feeling of losing a beloved mother, suddenly, to cancer. The grieving process is difficult, but you will always have the sweet memories of a wonderful person that enriched your life.

I do hope that during this difficult time that you and your father can support each other well, and perhaps grow closer than ever.
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Seeker gosh I'm sorry to hear that your mom passed away. I know exactly how you feel. My mom is someone I call every day and visit every few days in her memory care facility. When she dies, I"ll be totally alone. So, I know how you feel. I'm glad that your dad is still alive and is moving in with you. Maybe you and he can reconnect and have a different, better father-child bond now as adults?
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Default Nov 14, 2020 at 07:21 AM
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Again, thank you to everyone who's replied since my last post. You guys are sweet!

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Default Dec 05, 2020 at 11:52 AM
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Sorry to hear about that if you are struggling to cope, buy a necklace or bracelet. Go to the graveside and talk to her. I mean talk to the grave, it will help with the grieving process.
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