[Buffy01]

I could feel the grief coming back to me from when I was nine years old back when my best friend end up in a bad car accident. How do I forgive someone who cause this much grief? I should be over this person. It been several decades. I don’t know how to let go of this pain.

[RoxanneToto]

I’m so sorry you’re carrying such grief. I don’t feel like I can offer any helpful advice, just an acknowledgment that I see your pain and wish I could lighten the load for you.

[CANDC]

@Buffy01 sorry for the loss and the grief that still weighs on your mind.

These may be of interest.
Getting Through Grief and Letting Go

Grief Roadblocks & How to Let Go of Tough Emotions - Grief In Common

All the best @CANDC

[Buffy01]

Originally Posted by RoxanneToto

I’m so sorry you’re carrying such grief. I don’t feel like I can offer any helpful advice, just an acknowledgment that I see your pain and wish I could lighten the load for you.

I thought I would be okay with everything being of how long it been.

[Buffy01]

Originally Posted by CANDC

@Buffy01 sorry for the loss and the grief that still weighs on your mind.

These may be of interest.
Getting Through Grief and Letting Go

Grief Roadblocks & How to Let Go of Tough Emotions - Grief In Common

All the best @CANDC

I thought that this pain would eventually heal and leave. Until I started to feel the pain hit me all over again.

[CANDC]

@Buffy01 I am sorry that the wounds opened up again. Hope Spring will help with new signs of life.

[Buffy01]

Originally Posted by CANDC

@Buffy01 I am sorry that the wounds opened up again. Hope Spring will help with new signs of life.

I really thought that the wound would finally heal and stead of reopening again.

[CANDC]

@Buffy01 yes I thought it would heal but I seem to revisit it every once in a while. This video has an interesting outlook on grief

[Buffy01]

Originally Posted by CANDC

@Buffy01 yes I thought it would heal but I seem to revisit it every once in a while. This video has an interesting outlook on grief

Thank you for this information.

[*Beth*]

What a horrible way to lose your best friend, and at such a young age. It seems to me that the date of your friend's death may always bring up some feelings of loss and grief. Maybe try to honor that you will always need some extra self-kindness around that day.

[CANDC]

I agree Beth that anniversaries are very difficult. I try not to get too much going around them so I can have my feelings and still get done what needs to be done.

[Buffy01]

Originally Posted by BethRags

What a horrible way to lose your best friend, and at such a young age. It seems to me that the date of your friend's death may always bring up some feelings of loss and grief. Maybe try to honor that you will always need some extra self-kindness around that day.

I will try.

[Buffy01]

I started having the nightmares again the tears I shed, grief are all coming back to me again. I can feel the hurting starting all over again.

[Buffy01]

Originally Posted by CANDC

I agree Beth that anniversaries are very difficult. I try not to get too much going around them so I can have my feelings and still get done what needs to be done.

It the anniversary of the week even though it not the month but the same holiday of when it happened. I feel like a part of me has died all over again. Every time the anniversary come up the dreams start up.

[CANDC]

@Buffy01 sorry to hear that. Hope you can find a way to commemorate their life and all the good you two shared. Maybe that would produce a different result.

[Buffy01]

Originally Posted by CANDC

@Buffy01 sorry to hear that. Hope you can find a way to commemorate their life and all the good you two shared. Maybe that would produce a different result.

That a good idea one I didn’t think about. Tomorrow is the anniversary of the accident and Easter the day my friend passed away.