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Hi I'm new to this thread.Anyway I lost my Mom 6mons ago.I was extremely close to her.We were like best friends.It hurt me very much when I had to put her in a nursing home the last 3yrs of her life due to dementia.Anyway.I have nobody to talk to I'm bipolar and my counselor just ghosted me So basically nobody calls anymore so I'm on my own.Has anybody had this experience yet.Just lonely and reaching out .
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During 2020, and now 2021, most of my "friends" don't call me anymore. I have to be the one to initiate communication AND keep it going. It's getting exhausting and one sided, and I'm sick of it. They all KNOW I have no family, live alone, have hardly any friends and unfriendly neighbors, yet they stay away now. I just went for a walk with a volunteer from this non-profit that offers that, but this woman had to bring up FAMILY. "Do you have any family around here?" After a deep breath, swearing inside, I said, "I don't have any family left." An awkward silence followed, then she asked me have I been in the area long. She didn't even say sorry about family! That's the trite response, at least give me THAT. I know a lot of women in my age group have fulfilling lives with their spouses, kids, grandkids, second career, etc. But some of us don't and are struggling. Turns out she won't be able to walk again, as her schedule is so full again. This was the first time, but good riddance. Not even sympathy. I think death is uncomfortable but esp. in the U.S. There's a kind of denial about it, even with COVID still going on! I lost both parents, 2 years apart. I wasn't close to either but haven't had anyone to really talk to. I did have a therapist briefly about 3 months this year, but she left the organization and now I have to get used to a new therapist. I haven't talked to her just yet, but I don't like change. And therapists usually give one some structure. Not this place. It's highly disruptive to do that to people. I heard it has a high turnover. I told her if SHE leaves in 3 months, I'm done with their program. __________________ Call me "owl" for short! Hmmm....looks like some good tips in here. "Okay, enough photos. I'm a very BUSY Business Kitty, so make an appointment next time." |
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i am so sorry you lost your mom and that you feel so alone. i know what that feels like. pls post as much as you need to. many hugs to you
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Hi Cowtownboots95 -welcome to MSF My Support Forums. Hope you get the support you are looking for.
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Have you tried confronting or leaving a strongly worded message for your therapist?
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With a therapist it usually is not personal. With me it can be very personal so I look at what I have done or said that may have created the conditions I find myself in. I am compassionate and accepting and do not blame myself, but instead try to see how I can act differently in the future to have a different result.
One approach that has worked successfully for me is to leave an apology for anything I might have done that was offensive or inappropriate and to ask what can be done to mend the therapist client relationship and if things are too difficult, please let me know what I could do differently in the next therapy situation I find myself in. If I try to blame the therapist or threaten them, they go into defensive mode and I may never hear from them again. __________________ Super Moderator Community Support Team "Things Take Time" |
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I am sorry for your losses. Grief can be a long road to travel.
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