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Location: Birmingham UK
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Jul 03, 2024 at 02:55 PM
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My mother's health is failing. She's now in a care home and I know that at 89, she may not be around for much longer.
Something I've started to think about recently is what I want to do when she passes. I know it's solely my decision and perhaps I'm wrongly anticipating pressure from relatives to "do the right thing". I don't know whether I could visit my mother at rest before her funeral, to say goodbye. I've not had a happy life, although recognising how difficult it was for her to bring up 2 children on her own for 6 years. I was 5 and my brother 18 months old when our father died. Am I wrong in just wanting to go and sit either in a church or open space to remember her instead.... |
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Location: Milan/Michigan
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Jul 03, 2024 at 03:05 PM
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In the US, the immediate family gets time alone with the loved one if you so desire, so you are not always under the eyes of relatives. If that is what you are asking.
Otherwise, i think your role is to serve as hostess. |
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Jul 03, 2024 at 05:42 PM
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Just my 2 cents but a private visit before the funeral might be wise.
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