[nina52]

I am not quite sure how to start here; but I do know that I am in dire need of of telling my story, and hope that someone will have a suggestion or two for me.
My sister has been battling breast cancer for the past 8 years. She and I were always close to each other and our younger brother, but nothing like the way that we are now.
The very sad part of this story is that my parents are not and never have been supportive of anything for the 3 of us. My heart aches for my sister.
We are not quite sure how much time is left because the cancer has metastisis throughout the whole body. There are many other things all going on everyday.
I am basically her caregiver and my brother as well.

I have been on anti depression for many, many years, and my sister has been too. Sad as it sounds, it is true. We were are even up to now still are the parents to my mother,
I want to and totally need to deal with the reality of her death. It is very even for me to send
Our family growing up was very dysfunctioal.

[bebop]

I am very sorry your sister is so sick. I am a little confused. do you and your siblings live with the parents?

i'm so sorry to hear this. I am confused too, do you live with your parents?

[DocClyde]

(((Nina)))

[allthegirls6]

Nina,

Im sorry to read of whats going on. I nearly lost my sister in August. It was touch and go and i looked over the edge into the possibility of her dying. We were told to prepare for the worse.

what im saying is that I hear you oain, sisters are very special, i know it hurts

[ECHOES]

Be there for now at this time of her life and be loving and caring. Take one day at a time. When you lose your sister, then let the feelings of loss come and happen. For now, keep caring for her and loving her.

I'm so sorry you are going through this.

[nina52]

Hi BeBop,

I'm sorry if I didn't make myself clear in my post. These days something is always going on with my family, but more so with my sister. I have so many emotions going on all at once sometimes.
My sister lives by herself, about 1/8 of a mile from me. My brother and I and a close friend are trying to fill in the 24hr. care she needs now. We also have a Cares at home program that she is in. Three times a week, An R.N. comes in, more if needed, an aide 3-4x's a week, and a social worker for my sister and all of us.
Once my sister stops her chemo which she will find out this week, that it is not working, she may have to make the decision to stop treatment. At that point, this program also offers hospice through the Western Ct. Hospice.

I am married, have 4 girls, my brother is married and has 2 girls, and one of my daughters who is 31, has a 3 yr old boy, and a 1yr. old girl.
That daughter is from my 1st marriage, and my other girls ages 16, 17, and 12 are from my marriage now of 20 years.

I am 53, my sister is 52. She has been fighting this breast cancer for 8 years.
We grew up in a very dysfunctional family, but that is a whole new post.
Thanks for listening, and thank you for you're support.
Nina

[nina52]

Thank you for your hugs!!! I love that. This is why I come to this site. So many wonderful, caring people.
Nina

[nina52]

Allthegirls,
Thank you so much! I am sure you do understand. I am sorry you had to go through even the thought of almost losing your sister. I hope that she is well.
Nina

[nina52]

Thank you Echoes, you sound like a very wise person and I really appreciate your kind words of wisdom and support. I only hope that I can follow through with your advise.
Nina

[bebop]

I understand something always going on in a family. I just went thru the death of my aunt this past week and I tell you it was terrible the way the family was during it. I ended up being the only one with my aunt when she passed.

I am glad though that you are there for your sister. it is a most difficult time for you and her. ((((hugs)))

[nina52]

Beebop

Thank you again for your kind words again. I am so sorry for your loss. My aunt passed with cancer 2 months ago. I know what you mean.
Why do some families decide to act up in a negative way when someone in the family is passing?

You would think that would draw family together. My father hasn't talked to my brother and myself for 3 months now. All because he was very rude at my aunt's wake, and disrespected my aunts husband and the rest of the family. He did not like it when we told him he was rude, and his actions were totally unacceptable. But this is not new, this is how we grew up; very dysfunctional
upbringing, and toxic relationships.

Take care beebop.