[emwell]

My Dad passed 3 yrs ago Nov.
The other day my Mom went to her first funeral since his.
She lost it.
Later in the day she thanked me for supporting her at the funeral as she couldn't have made it without me. Later in the night, she was very upset. I did everything I could to comfort her. I have been doing everything I can since Dad crossed. She still cries every day. She wants to die, but says she could never kill herself. I suggested grief counseling. She needs it. Kinda agreed to it that night. Now she is changing her mind. I am all set to find out her insurance information and give her a list of potential people. Her boyfriend is supporting me 100%. I even have offered to make all calls for her, set up appointment, and go with her if she needs me to.

Any ideas on how I get her where she needs to be.

<font color=white>laughter really is the best medicine</font color=white>

[gloria]

Does she like reading?
I have recomended this book before, and I have to recomend it again, It helped me soooo much in the process of healing, I cannot say enough about this book.

It is called "Don't take my grief away". If she reads, buy it. I was able to live again thanks to this book.

gab

[emwell]

Do you happen to know the author of this book? I searched my library computer for it, and could not find it using the title.
Thanks again
Deb

<font color=white>laughter really is the best medicine</font color=white>

[gloria]

I'm at work right now and I have that book at home, I'll go and look tonight and will post the author and printing house tomorrow.

Take care.

gab

This looks like it, by Doug Manning:

<A target="_blank" HREF=http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/tg/detail/-/0060654171/qid=1093647579/sr=1-2/ref=sr_1_2/104-1119468-8423105?v=glance&s=books>http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/tg/detail/-/0060654171/qid=1093647579/sr=1-2/ref=sr_1_2/104-1119468-8423105?v=glance&s=books</A>

emmy

[emwell]

Thanks so much. With more specific information, I should be able to find it at a library somewhere around here.

Thanks again

<font color=white>laughter really is the best medicine</font color=white>

[friedgreymatter]

you're doing all you can for your mom, emwell and helping her tremendously. I don't know about how to get her to attend counseling sessions, though.

She will probably change her mind several times and procrastinate. You and her bf should continue encouraging her. I think she will go, eventually.

You are doing so much for mom. I'm sure she appreciates it.

You are very sweet, emwell. I wish you and your family well.

[emwell]

Thank you for your thoughts friedgreymatter (I still LOVE that name). My Mom has been a bit better as my sister asked her to babysit her kids. She got to take 2 of them to a motel for the night. We call these kids our anti-depressants.
She also broke down on the phone with her youngest sister. This could be good as this sister has been a B____ to my Mom for awhile. Maybe now she will understand the hard time my Mom has been going through and be more sensitive.

I found the book Don't take my grief away: what to do when you lose a loved one by Doug Manning. It is at a semi local library. Because it is a different county, I can't order it online. Everything works out for the best though. I have been supplying my Mom with a series of books she loves. I will kill two birds with one stone. Order the book directly from my library and get her book #4.

It has felt weird being able to emotionally support my Mom for the last few years. If you knew what a horrible, unstable teen I was, you would not recognize me as that person. It feels almost like I was sent extra strength in order to hold her up.

<font color=white>laughter really is the best medicine</font color=white>

[friedgreymatter]

Maybe it is a good thing in a way, about your mother and your sister. I hope something good comes out of this. Maybe it will bring the family a bit closer together.

You're mother is openly grieving. That may be a good thing, too. It would concern me if someone was too quiet and withdrawn about it.

Were you a bad girl??? Oh, I was a monster when I was younger.

Good thing you have this strength now for your mom.

What about you, though? Are you alright?