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Poohbah
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Jun 22, 2008 at 09:36 PM
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It will soon be the 5th anniversery of my mother's death. She died of ovarion cancer at the age of 42. She was having symptoms for 6 years and the doctor kept telling her it was IBD and gastritous. He kept her on stuff like Previcid and Zantac. But she was in so much pain on 9/9/01 that she was rushed to the ER the ER doc went against my mom's doctor and ordered a complete abdominal scan and seen multiple tumors around her gallbladder, spleen, pancreas, and ovaeries. Then on the 10th she had surgery to remove the affected orans and half her pancreas. We thought she was going to beat it but it seems like overnight, the tumors apread through her body. On 6/3/03 the docs told her she had 3-6 months to live then she passed away on 6/25/03. I harbor alot of anger toward her doctor. And I'm still grieving.
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Jun 22, 2008 at 10:08 PM
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You have every right to be angry toward her doctor, and to be still grieving as well. Something similar happened to my dad. It will be 9 years soon and I still miss him.
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Jun 22, 2008 at 10:11 PM
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thunderbear, safe and gentle hugs to you.
I'm sorry to hear about your mom. Five years is not a long time so I'm sure when you come upon these anniversaries, they feel like yesterday. I understand. It's horrible. My dad was being sent to a chiroprator when in fact he had a tumor on his spine.  Like your mom, he went fast. |
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Jun 22, 2008 at 10:14 PM
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anniversaries are the hardest my thoughts are with you |
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Jun 22, 2008 at 10:51 PM
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you know hon I am really sorry this happened. it is ok to still be grieving. I have a dr I don't like right now. I feel like he laughs at me and does not take me seriously. errrrrrrrr drs!
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Jun 22, 2008 at 11:14 PM
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I don't have much faith in Dr's anymore either, there are some doctors that just shouldn't be doctors. I hate my husbands doctor, for reasons I won't boar you with. I lost my Dad six years ago he was only 49 I was just 26, I still cry for him. I enjoy the good cry. I close my eyes and I listen to the songs he use to play and just cry. I feel likes he's with me when I listen to the music, I feel him in my heart and soul. I know that sounds corny but it's how I cope, it's how I visit him. Sometimes I hold his bible close to me and read the notes he scribbled down. This also helps me deal with his early death. My thoughts are with you.
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Jun 22, 2008 at 11:56 PM
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Jun 23, 2008 at 09:13 PM
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(((((((((((( thunderbear )))))))))))))))))))))
I understand how difficult anniversaries can be.
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Jun 23, 2008 at 10:12 PM
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((((((Thunderbear))))))
I feel your pain.  A week ago today was the third anniversry of my mother's passing from a heart attack. I completely understand that feeling of anger towards the doctors.She was literally in the hospital a couple days before for heart palpitations and chest pain, but she got kicked out because of insurance issues. Had she been in the hospital, she might still be here...I'm so sorry to hear about your mom. PM me if you need anything, whether it's someone to vent frustrations to, a shoulder to cry on, or an ear to listen. Take care,  J __________________ "One by one, as they march, our comrades vanish from our sight, seized by the silent orders of omnipotent death. Very brief is the time in which we can help them, in which their happiness or misery is decided. Be it ours to shed sunshine on their path, to lighten their sorrows by the balm of sympathy, to give them the pure joy of a never-tiring affection, to stregthen failing courage, to instill faith in hours of despair." -Bertrand Russell With love and hope, <~/J\~> |
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